But identification with one's oppressor and abuser happens all the time. Some people who were bullied and abused become bullies and abusers of others.

That actually makes a lot of sense.

Might be an attempt to become safe. If these things happen to girls and women, then they won't happen to me if I don't look like a girl or a woman.

Though I do see a lot (A LOT) of misogyny among TIFs. They have internalized it and they define women in misogynistic and sexist terms rather than as a person of female sex who is also an individual with her own talents and excellencies.