There's more to this phrases and I'm trying to pick it out.
If I talk about women's sex based rights in a comment thread under something trans related, people call me transphobic, which is a common occurance for us all.
But the thing that I find interesting, is they expect me to rush in to defend myself. They say things like "I hope you know that makes you transphobic" and "you can say you're not transphobic, but you clearly are".
I never claim to not be transphobic and I respond by telling them I don't care if they think I'm transphobic. Then suddenly they stop replying. It's like that's their power; making you back into a corner to defend your virtue, and beg that people can see you're not transphobic.
It doesn't work with me because IDGAF what people think of me personally, I'm trying to open people's eyes not gain approval.
Is this what it comes down to, though? Everyone is jumping on the TWAW bandwagon to make sure no one thinks their transphobic? Not being transphobic is the end goal for these people? I think it's more about that, than it is about supporting trans people.
Transphobia is not the same as homophobia. It doesn't mean treating people badly becayse they're trans. They let people assume it means that, but when they say it, they mean you're gender critical. Everyone gets scared because people might think they look like bad people, so they start talking about trans people they know, and allies and all that shit. Even JKR did it.
I'm growing accustomed to the term in the same was I am with TERF. Being against gender idelogy is not a bad thing. Trans people endorse a dangerous ideology, so being called transphobic is not as mortifying as people seem to think it is. Not to me, it's not.
Sorry for dumping my thoughts on the screen like this.
I'm just wondering what you think. Do you need to make sure people know you're not transphobic when you're being gender critical? Does that word make you cower and defend yourself? Does it shut you up? Could you ever own it? How do you interpret the meaning of it?