I have been seeing this phrase cropping up more and more often and I hate it. Any tips for shutting it down without being labeled TERF?
example of usage: "Going out for a jog at night isn't an option for most women and femmes because it could be unsafe"
I've tried telling people the word originally was used by the lesbian community, but I'm not sure if lesbians use it anymore?
I also tried pointing out that by their own logic that means trans women aren't women.
Finally I ask them what femmes means and if it means feminine people then why are we lumping together women and "feminine people", doesn't that just force the idea that women must be feminine? But this last one is extremely high risk you're gonna be bitched at for "TERF". Sigh...