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I've been going out more and met some women through HER. There's about 20 of us and turn outs are decent.

So far no Tim's, but they all ask for pronouns and spew TWAW. I just ignore them and lay low. One of the girls I've been talking to is bi,so that sucks.the other is fem presenting, but non binary. Huh? They are constantly correcting people about their pronouns. It feels like a troll.

I'm the only lesbian there. There's two others, but they both identify as nonbinary lesbians.

Sucks actual lesbians don't want to meet up anymore.

I've been going out more and met some women through HER. There's about 20 of us and turn outs are decent. So far no Tim's, but they all ask for pronouns and spew TWAW. I just ignore them and lay low. One of the girls I've been talking to is bi,so that sucks.the other is fem presenting, but non binary. Huh? They are constantly correcting people about their pronouns. It feels like a troll. I'm the only lesbian there. There's two others, but they both identify as nonbinary lesbians. Sucks actual lesbians don't want to meet up anymore.

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Yeah, this is pretty much why I have given up dating entirely. Rather be single than deal with this, even though I'm pretty lonely. I get enough genderwoo at work; I don't want to have to filter my social life too.

It's mentally exhausting, but ignoring and wine has been working out. Still worried I'll slip and say the wrong thing.

I downloaded an (awful) app for lesbians a couple of weeks ago. The first bio I read included: "Asking for my pronouns is a good icebreaker."

NOPE. Incidentally, green hair.

It's like a dog whistle IMO if someone has weird colored hair. 9 times out of 10 they are part of the gender cult. Good call on that.

I'm not dating for the exact same reason. I wish there was a gender critical dating app where I could find someone who shares my values. I haven't tried online lately because I am sure I would get banned for saying no trans, no one with a penis, etc. It's always been more challenging as a feminine lesbian looking for other feminine lesbians now I have weed through transbians. Bleh. I'm also not poly, not into kink and in my mid 40s. I don't have time for their bull shit. lol.

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Her is much more of a queer app than a lesbian app. You'll get banned if you state you don't like willys on there.

Might have better luck on somewhere else. You could try Club Monocle maybe.

Monocle is cool. I'm just bored with online. I'm having more fun going out.

I've been banned twice from her.