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Hi all,

I’m not sure whether to post this here or at o/LovingWomen

Something unexpected (see title) happened to me a few hours ago so I was wondering if any others had similar experiences.

I was talking to one of my friends about a variety of topics then she mentioned she is attracted to women, which lead to me saying that I’m a lesbian. We talked about the overarching community & how our sexuality affects us (stereotypes, coming out, etc). Anyway, after this long conversation (several hours), I feel like I have a newfound attraction towards her that wasn’t there before.

I know it’s common to be attracted to people before you find out their sexuality though I’m not sure how common it is for the other way around.

Has anyone else had similar experiences? Or anything they would like to add?

Hi all, I’m not sure whether to post this here or at o/LovingWomen Something unexpected (see title) happened to me a few hours ago so I was wondering if any others had similar experiences. I was talking to one of my friends about a variety of topics then she mentioned she is attracted to women, which lead to me saying that I’m a lesbian. We talked about the overarching community & how our sexuality affects us (stereotypes, coming out, etc). Anyway, after this long conversation (several hours), I feel like I have a newfound attraction towards her that wasn’t there before. I know it’s common to be attracted to people before you find out their sexuality though I’m not sure how common it is for the other way around. Has anyone else had similar experiences? Or anything they would like to add?

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[–] oofreesouloo 2 points Edited

It is actually really common, at least with me. As soon as I find out a girl is bi or lesbian, I suddenly look at her differently, but in a good way, in a Oh!-I-might-have-a-chance-with-her kind of way. As I'm usually attracted to femmes, I instintively think the women I'm attracted to are straight, which sadly it's the truth unless I have a very good lgb network (which I don't). So when I find out it isn't the case, I start noticing her more and actually find her hotter. This doesn't always happen, but more often than not, it does.

EDIT: I've just realised through the comments that this is actually very common and we all think similarly! Eheh