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Hi all,

I’m not sure whether to post this here or at o/LovingWomen

Something unexpected (see title) happened to me a few hours ago so I was wondering if any others had similar experiences.

I was talking to one of my friends about a variety of topics then she mentioned she is attracted to women, which lead to me saying that I’m a lesbian. We talked about the overarching community & how our sexuality affects us (stereotypes, coming out, etc). Anyway, after this long conversation (several hours), I feel like I have a newfound attraction towards her that wasn’t there before.

I know it’s common to be attracted to people before you find out their sexuality though I’m not sure how common it is for the other way around.

Has anyone else had similar experiences? Or anything they would like to add?

Hi all, I’m not sure whether to post this here or at o/LovingWomen Something unexpected (see title) happened to me a few hours ago so I was wondering if any others had similar experiences. I was talking to one of my friends about a variety of topics then she mentioned she is attracted to women, which lead to me saying that I’m a lesbian. We talked about the overarching community & how our sexuality affects us (stereotypes, coming out, etc). Anyway, after this long conversation (several hours), I feel like I have a newfound attraction towards her that wasn’t there before. I know it’s common to be attracted to people before you find out their sexuality though I’m not sure how common it is for the other way around. Has anyone else had similar experiences? Or anything they would like to add?

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I've been physically attracted to straight women, of course. But it stops there because their being straight is a turn off. In fact this extends to bisexuals as well.

Yes, I've been romantically attracted or interested in a relationship with women after I find out they are lesbian. I believe it is in part because:

1) They are brave enough/willing to be out about it and firm in the notion of being a lesbian by definition.

2) They don't, or aren't as likely to subscribe to the bullshit of the other cultures (gender, queer, straight)

3) They are aware enough of self and grounded enough to know who and what they are.