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Hi all,

I’m not sure whether to post this here or at o/LovingWomen

Something unexpected (see title) happened to me a few hours ago so I was wondering if any others had similar experiences.

I was talking to one of my friends about a variety of topics then she mentioned she is attracted to women, which lead to me saying that I’m a lesbian. We talked about the overarching community & how our sexuality affects us (stereotypes, coming out, etc). Anyway, after this long conversation (several hours), I feel like I have a newfound attraction towards her that wasn’t there before.

I know it’s common to be attracted to people before you find out their sexuality though I’m not sure how common it is for the other way around.

Has anyone else had similar experiences? Or anything they would like to add?

Hi all, I’m not sure whether to post this here or at o/LovingWomen Something unexpected (see title) happened to me a few hours ago so I was wondering if any others had similar experiences. I was talking to one of my friends about a variety of topics then she mentioned she is attracted to women, which lead to me saying that I’m a lesbian. We talked about the overarching community & how our sexuality affects us (stereotypes, coming out, etc). Anyway, after this long conversation (several hours), I feel like I have a newfound attraction towards her that wasn’t there before. I know it’s common to be attracted to people before you find out their sexuality though I’m not sure how common it is for the other way around. Has anyone else had similar experiences? Or anything they would like to add?

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I’m often attracted more to people I know are bi/lesbian because the possibility of them being reciprocal of that attraction is there. Yes I do find straight women attractive but I know there is zero to minimal chance it would ever be returned so I don’t think about it as much. I don’t think it’s odd. I’ve never been a love at first sight or instant spark kind of person, I need to get to know someone first and knowing they could also like me back aids that attraction.