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Turn out was nice. 11 of us. I wasn't the only lesbian for once. A conversation about tims came up and I was surprised some of them said they think many are faking!

Some started the blah blah twaw, but we changed the subject. They brought up goldstar lesbians and I just lmao. It's so true only non lesbians are offended. They asked me what I thought and I said I'm gold star, so what? I explained that growing up it wasn't an insult, but they wouldn't believe me.

One of the girls who's nonbinary, demisexual, two-spirit, pan+ (not even exaggerating) this chick names off this huge list. The other lesbian asked wtf does all that mean and she said she's only attracted to minds 🙄 Purple hair. Of course.

The only attracted to "minds" chick was sitting there practically naked. She said she was disappointed that lesbians only wanted sex from her like men. Uhh yeah. We don't want to sit around and just talk about feelings with you.

Walp, had fun regardless.

Turn out was nice. 11 of us. I wasn't the only lesbian for once. A conversation about tims came up and I was surprised some of them said they think many are faking! Some started the blah blah twaw, but we changed the subject. They brought up goldstar lesbians and I just lmao. It's so true only non lesbians are offended. They asked me what I thought and I said I'm gold star, so what? I explained that growing up it wasn't an insult, but they wouldn't believe me. One of the girls who's nonbinary, demisexual, two-spirit, pan+ (not even exaggerating) this chick names off this huge list. The other lesbian asked wtf does all that mean and she said she's only attracted to minds 🙄 Purple hair. Of course. The only attracted to "minds" chick was sitting there practically naked. She said she was disappointed that lesbians only wanted sex from her like men. Uhh yeah. We don't want to sit around and just talk about feelings with you. Walp, had fun regardless.

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Hope you got the other actual lesbians contact info!

Glad you had fun, even with the gender woo. I don't understand how gold-star is even offensive to anyone, especially if you're not a gold-star, then it has nothing to do with you?! I think it's awesome when a woman's a gold-star, it usually means she's known herself and stood firm in her sexuality from a young age, that's hard in our dick-pandering world!

When I used to lurk on the Italian LGBT Yahoo Answer's community, that was quite active more than ten years ago, gold stars were the most admired ones!! I remember that many users were like "Oh no, I am a poor silver star, I'm so envious!" 😂

Omg I remember that!!! I was trying to explain to them it was important to us as lesbians, but it was just blah blah me me blah

before I went down the reddit hole, I never fought that gold star was some kind of slur. Sure, it can be used to taunt someone but honestly I always was rather proud to be one because it meant I didn't had to go through all this bullshit of pretending to be something I'm not. But with social media, you're not allowed to be proud of yourself anymore except when you're having some kind of mental illness.

Being a gold star is a great thing. My wife is a gold star and she's unapologetic about it. I on the other hand did have to go down that hole of pretending to be something I'm not.

I probably would’ve been very clear of my distain for the “demi” girl in which I would’ve been at risk for being kicked out lmao but good for you!

At least you met SOME “normal” lesbians I’d hope?

Yes! I've met some cool chicks. We are already planning another hang out. Demi girl is only 21 so there's still hope.

Hope is all you can give that one 🤨

But that’s great that you got to meet some cool gals!

That's awesome. My city has a few "queer women" meetups I've been afraid to join because 1. I hate queer/woke stuff and 2. I worry about being in an all around uncomfortable situation, but I guess it seems that normal lesbians join these too? After reading this post, I feel I should at least try.

About the gold star discussion... I'm a gold star and I don't exactly feel pride about it, but rather I just kind of feel glad and lucky about it if that makes sense? I didn't grow up in the best environment.

I think most non-gold stars just usually feel happy for gold star lesbians for not having to go through that shitty experience as far as I've seen.

I recommend giving it a try! I've met two cool lesbians through these groups.

They brought up goldstar lesbians and I just lmao. It's so true only non lesbians are offended. They asked me what I thought and I said I'm gold star, so what?

Plenty of late bloomer lesbians such as myself are bothered by the gold star "joke" because we've been accused of being stealth bisexuals, liars, or confused due to having slept with a guy in the past. "Gold stars" don't seem to understand that we slept with the guy because we were brainwashed not because we were attracted to him, and that sleeping with the man was traumatizing, but that's an entire other topic and I'll spare people the essay.

The only attracted to "minds" chick was sitting there practically naked. She said she was disappointed that lesbians only wanted sex from her like men. Uhh yeah. We don't want to sit around and just talk about feelings with you.

Walp, had fun regardless.

I most certainly want more than just sex from a woman, but I'm noticing more and more that femmes are saying the opposite is true of masculine lesbians and that all butches/studs (I'm black) only care about sex.

About a week ago, I got in an argument with a femme who kept saying that all studs only cared about sex and didn't want to settle down and have a relationship. When I told her I would gladly settle down if the right woman came along, she scoffed and said I wasn't a real stud, then told me to "prove it."

I dunno. Maybe this is something younger lesbians are on about. I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of lesbians hadn't been effected by a pornsick culture where everyone wants to be a heartless "savage" who just fucks women and dumps them. I sure am tired of being roped in with you people because I'm not like that at all.