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I've been trying to figure out what to do with my life since college graduation. Thinking it's going to be journalism and maybe teaching later on.

Interested to hear what you all do and what your career stories are... also if you're out at your job or not, and how you figured out or knew if you were going to tell coworkers.

At my current job - just something to pay the bills atm - I'm not really making an effort to really talk to people that much. Some of them seem conservative enough that I might feel like lying and saying I have a boyfriend if it comes up in conversation... annoyingly had to turn down a couple numbers from weirdo men.

I've been trying to figure out what to do with my life since college graduation. Thinking it's going to be journalism and maybe teaching later on. Interested to hear what you all do and what your career stories are... also if you're out at your job or not, and how you figured out or knew if you were going to tell coworkers. At my current job - just something to pay the bills atm - I'm not really making an effort to really talk to people that much. Some of them seem conservative enough that I might feel like lying and saying I have a boyfriend if it comes up in conversation... annoyingly had to turn down a couple numbers from weirdo men.

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I'm in cybersecurity :D

I am not out really at work, despite my manager being a very out and proud lesbian. When I first started here, the guy training us was gay and announced to our entire group that my colleague/friend was gay 'just like him' and how excited he was, so I never mentioned it to him/others because I don't really like people outing me like that.

My reasons for not coming out at work, except maybe to my good friends, is purely because I try to keep my work and personal life very separate. They keep pushing for me to have work email on my phone or slack but fuck that, I value my free time and privacy.

No career, I work at a small business (don't want to out what I do) at a low wage job. It's a mix of pretty intense customer service, manual labor, and back end stuff-- I also manage a chunk of the company's website. I could possibly pivot some of these skills into something "more" but I am honestly not ambitious and I really don't want to have my life or identity tied to my work.

I am 100% out at my job-- it's in a field where LGBT people are super common as clients/customers and I have LGBT coworkers. I am partnered which makes it obviously harder to try to be closeted or ambiguous and strongly resent having to hide that I'm gay after concealing it in a conservative environment from 16-26. I also just look gay so it would be really stupid to try given that so much of the clientele can clock me immediately (well some of them think I am trans but you know).

I tell coworkers because they tend to ask or at least gossip unless I do, it's generally easier for me to just be honest and then just leave the information out there for people to encounter how they will. In places geographically/culturally where it was iffy to be out I didn't announce it but depending on who was asking I would confirm or just give a non-answer ("not interested in dating right now"). This is really the first job where I socialize with coworkers to any degree so previously it didn't really put me in any spot to either say it or not-- I could mind my own business for the most part and whether or not I was Officially Confirmed didn't affect my standing.

I'm an architect and physical planner (kind of like an urbanist?), graduated two years ago. I'm not out at my job and almost no one knows I'm a lesbian aside from some friends and a cousin. They've asked if I have a boyfriend some times and I tell them I'm happily single. They pried sometimes asking me why and my "I don't need one" answer seemed to leave them shocked lol maybe if they had asked if I have a girlfriend my answer would be "not yet". But really, its not anybody's business anyway, so I don't give them other openings to ask more than that.

I'm an apprentice engineer in energy management and efficiency, in a pretty small company. It's really cool because it's so small, we're constantly thinking on how to improve our services and do more. I'm very satisfied with my job but it took me a while to get there. I went to college, studied psychology for years and years, then I dropped out, and tried a few things here and there until I discovered that I do like doing manual/technical stuff so I studied as an electrician and now here I am.

As far as being out at work goes, it's a no for me. Lol. I'm not even out to all of my friends. I don't see the point, since I'm not seeing anyone. I guess I'd say something if I was, current colleagues are pretty close and do stuff together with their +1, I'd feel guilty leaving out my +1 just for fear of them knowing I'm a lesbian haha. But well, that's still all hypothetical.

I’m an author. I struggled for a bit, but I actually make really good money with my writing now. :)

I started med school, I still don't know if I want to be out, but it's probably coming up eventually

[–] Wrexilexie 5 points Edited

I went back to school now to finish my Computer Science degree. Ut I've spent the last 10 years in Coporate America and worked with big name companies. During that time I never felt the need to "come out" at a job. It's not really the place for it. BUT if it comes up in conversation I dont hesitate to mention a gf, or ex gf, or my wife. (I don't have a gf and a wife) I live in a red state so you would think people would stone me or something. I've found that generally people either don't care, are cool with it, or are gay themselves and you've found a gay work buddy. These days people are much more accepting.

I’m retired now. I never had much ambition about my career. I just wanted a good enough job to support myself so that I could do my art and activism. So I was a pink, and then white collar worker.

My advice to a young person now is: find a job that pays you more than you spend. Save your money and buy commercial real estate, or shares in a REIT. Make money the way that rich people do: collecting rent. Use the money you get for good: support women, give your friends gifts, produce cultural events for yourself and your friends.

I'm in grad school right now. I don't want to be that annoying person whose entire personality is being gay, and also it really isn't anyone's business. I don't lie if anyone asks, but people usually don't. I keep most of my personal life pretty private.

I've worked in previous jobs where it wouldn't have been a comfortable situation to come out, so that involved some creative wording to maintain plausible deniability. It felt better than actively lying.

i am a few months away from being a doctor, i am out to a dozen or so of my peers because i grew tired of having to lie through my teeth all the time.

That's amazing!! And thanks for the insight...

[–] winterghost 5 points Edited

thank you, i am very proud of this haha.

and yeah the coming out question varies wildly, i assume i will come out when working in a hospital at some point in my life, specially if i spend years there. it's not sustainable (for me) to lie through my teeth all the time, and if i do get married one day i am not gonna pretend my hypothetical wife doesn't exist.

edit: i also usually come out by mentioning past exes or whatever, i don't put on a show because i did that with close friends and it was (1) annoying (2) nerve-wracking. no one who knows has said anything to me about this, even the most right-wing people i know. if they say shit about me when i am not there, i don't care.

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