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Honestly I hate the late bloomer sub on reddit, not because I don't support women that find out they are lesbians later in life, but because many won't accept that they are not lesbians but in fact are bisexual women. So another posting where they talk about how they crave male genitalia and that TIMs are the perfect solution to that problem.
Whyyyy are women like this so obsessed with identifying as a lebsian?
I seriously don't get it. I kinda get the Kinsey 5's who have no intention of being involved with a man wanting to call themselves lesbians (although I still don't think they should), but why are women who are actively having sex with men insisting that they're lesbians? What do they get out of it?
Also looking through her post history, found she posted the same thing on /r/sex, which resulted in this disgusting exchange:
Do these people hear themselves!? "Lesbians are designed to want dick when they're fertile"!? 🤮
I definitely feel hornier when I'm ovulating... hornier for women. Not very productive reproduction-wise but that is the thing with homosexuality 🤣
Maybe because lesbians get fetishised by straight men so much and they obviously can't exist without the attention of males?
I mean OP from this post had another topic open in /r/NSFWIAMA where she discusses that she had 3 guys jizz on her face on the same day...I can't even describe how much I want to vomit after reading that.
I got the feeling she's a nymphomaniac or something like it. She had another post up where she's bragging about how she let 3 guys cum onto her face on the same day. For me that's not normal sexual behaviour
Lots of lesbians come out later in life, after finding out that, not only are they attracted to women, but that they were never actually attracted to men at all (comp het is a mind fuck). That's fine. That's lesbian.
But there are now lots of women finding they are attracted to women and that women are more fully human in relationships than men are capable of being. So they call themselves lesbians to get in on relationships with lesbians and whatever remains of lesbian community in private gatherings. Except they are still sexually attracted to men and want the relative ease of living in society coupled with a man as well as the more direct route to having kids.
These women are obviously bi. I think they call themselves "lesbian" partly out of the horizontal hostility women act out toward other women in trying to get and keep mens approval. Bi women know that men, especially now the men who larp as women/lesbians, fetishize lesbians and that men are annoyed, and even enraged, that lesbians will never want anything to do with men. But bi women get massive approval from men for saying "See? Lesbians love dick. Look at me!"
And I think that there is also an element of anger and resentment by bi women toward lesbians. They can't get rid of their attraction - that lesbians never have to deal with - to their oppressors, to the class of people responsible for most of the bad things that happen to women. It's as if lesbians deserve to get shit on because we never get into the kind of relationships (ie: with men) in which all other women are shit on. Like they think we think we are too good to suffer that way.
At least that is how it seems from what bi women say when they are being honest and speaking unguardedly. They know how damaging it is to falsely call themselves lesbian. They just don't care.
So these people literally don't believe in female homosexuality, huh. It's not surprising, but it's always depressing to see.
This is such a bizarre and grotesque thing to talk about in a lesbian space-- I can understand a woman who is unsure and trying to figure things out stating something similar in less disgusting terms, but she really seems to be gunning for the absolutely most porny way to describe whatever she's thinking and she HAS to know it disturbs the lesbians in that sub... the way she is responding to women who are like "hell no" is telling. She-- or "she"-- is definitely fetish mining at the least, an element of whatever gets her off is definitely how violating it is for her to make other women listen to her.
I did know a woman like this once, she would talk about her boyfriend's dick in family restaurants, would share her bizarre and nasty thoughts about sex, would randomly proclaim she was a lesbian and attempt to get graphic about it (despite being disgusted herself with women's bodies) whenever she was upset with men... I didn't want to hear any of it and that was kind of the point for her, she wanted to say all sorts of violating things to female friends who were disgusted by it (myself and our friend who was a virgin at the time).
Boundary violation, particularly of women, is at the core of male socialization and male sexuality. Women who partner with men (and this woman is obviously bi, still attracted to men) absorb and normalize male socialization and male socialized sexuality to a lesser or greater extent. They have to in order to have relationships with men. So they sometimes engage in some typical male socialized boundary violation toward other women - especially other women who reject all men sexually.
This is a really interesting observation which definitely explains some thing I have witnessed/read about. Thanks.
The "cum" talk makes me absolutely gag. This has to be some sort of troll / man looking for comments to fulfill his fetish.
I almost threw up reading all that
I used to love this sub because I found out I’m a lesbian at almost 30, but after I started noticing that many women who post there are just bisexual women who want to claim the lesbian label to themselves without actually being lesbians just made me upset.
This sub is so weird in regards to the relationships some of the women still have with their exes or husbands/boyfriends and how they idolise them. I'm not a late bloomer but I always thought this must be confusing for someone that is looking for support just to hear it's totally normal to still be in love with your male partner.
Exactly. The more I read the sub, the more I couldn’t understand why they’re more worried about their male partner than themselves.
Well, this is why the “B” exists. Not all women are lesbians. But these are the same women who insult lesbians when we insist on naming ourselves.
It's infuriating when an obviously bisexual woman is calling herself a lesbian with the occasional preference for men or male genitalia.