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Once more I’m in that virtual hell that is mindlessly swiping in hopes of some kind of intimate connection.

I’m tired of having to swipe through MEN though my settings are set to only women.

Im tired of swiping on weird edgelord girls or girls who are looking for friends only or couples, or girls who are just sooo not attractive to me.

It’s just another bottomless pit of despair.

So hopefully maybe some more of you ladies will hop on Club Monocle so they can get a dating section going? I feel like that app is my only safe space.

Once more I’m in that virtual hell that is mindlessly swiping in hopes of some kind of intimate connection. I’m tired of having to swipe through MEN though my settings are set to only women. Im tired of swiping on weird edgelord girls or girls who are looking for friends only or couples, or girls who are just sooo not attractive to me. It’s just another bottomless pit of despair. So hopefully maybe some more of you ladies will hop on Club Monocle so they can get a dating section going? I feel like that app is my only safe space.

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[–] ItsCalculated 10 points Edited

If you look back in my history I made a post when I was at one point on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, HER and Ok Cupid all at the same time. I recommend HER above all. Ok Cupid second, and Tinder third. Don't even bother with Bumble, or Hinge. The population is too small.

I was avoiding HER because I knew it allowed the gender specials but it actually worked out for me. Once you accept that you will have to swipe left on some TIMs it's actually pretty good. You will find more lesbians than anywhere else, and they will actually say they are lesbians in their profile instead of the Russian roulette with bisexuals, women experimenting, and women just fucking with us on other apps (especially Tinder).

I'm in a relationship now with a sporty/masc lesbian I met on HER.

Considering how many TIMs I have to fucking swipe through on tinder, HER probably is not much different. 🙄

MAYBE I’ll try it again, but the whole sending hormone ads to lesbians was one too many things wrong with that app.

Whoa, I didn't know they sent hormone ads to lesbians, that was on HER, a dating site that is "supposed" (scare quotes) to be for lesbians? Damn, thais insidious and extremely fucked up. I don't blame you for not wanting to patronize a company that does that.

Yeah it’s beyond insidious. They don’t give a rats ass about actual women, they just want the money

In my experience HER is where all the HIM’s go.

Just redownloaded it and of course the first two were not-at-all-trying-to-pass males. Yuck.

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I use various apps. Had limited success from them. I think a lot of it is about encountering lesbians who actually want a relationship, as loads seem to be there for validation or one night stands. Also, moving around gives a hugely different impression of the women out ther

Yeah my area is just rank with girls that don’t swipe on me, or TIMs, it’s one of the other.

Or girls who just aren’t my type

I was able to meet my gf on hinge. It was new at the time though, so not many men had found it yet.

I was on Club Monocle and I was really liking it but the app kept closing whenever I tried to get on the treehouse. I got frustrated and deleted it eventually.

Tinder is a huge fucking joke. LOL. The one girl I felt connected to wasted my time over the course of almost two months. Everyone else, as mentioned, is either a TIM, couple looking for their unicorn, sex maniacs who only want one thing (fair, it IS Tinder I suppose), or straight up men.

Had a few trans men in there too. WTF?

I miraculously met my girlfriend on POF. We both consider that a very lucky coincidence. Dating apps are nightmares, but in person its damn near impossible now since the TRAs are taking over ALL of our spaces. Dive bars, ECT.

I’m even on match.com and it’s pitiful there too.

At one time I was on Zoosk and Scout but those didn’t let me filter for women only unless i really looked for it.

And Taimi you have to pay for to even START to use, in which all you get is again, men.

HER is filled with TIMs and they also nickel and dime you for everything as they give you not only ads, but restrict how many women you can swipe through in a day.

I have not tried POF. It does seem at this point that everything is redundant. And as you said, this is all we have! Adds even more to the frustration.