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Sorry if not allowed.

Has anyone considered trying to do a matchmaking/dating thing on here? Here on ovarit we feel pretty secure, and in our circle we know we're gay and GC. Still good to exercise caution, but anyone open to (at least temporary) long distance relationships, we should try to set something up, no? :)

I noticed some posts here and some on Said it, and it made me think to post this. Perhaps we could do what I've seen someone do before: set up a Google doc that has some basic qualifier, see how many people respond and try to match them up to like-types. Never done it before myself but might consider it if there's any real interest!

I'm struggling with the same feeling as the people I've seen post these things, so we're all in it together haha.

EDIT: If anyone has question ideas for the possible form feel free to leave them, if we do end up doing something like this!

Sorry if not allowed. Has anyone considered trying to do a matchmaking/dating thing on here? Here on ovarit we feel pretty secure, and in our circle we know we're gay and GC. Still good to exercise caution, but anyone open to (at least temporary) long distance relationships, we should try to set something up, no? :) I noticed some posts here and some on Said it, and it made me think to post this. Perhaps we could do what I've seen someone do before: set up a Google doc that has some basic qualifier, see how many people respond and try to match them up to like-types. Never done it before myself but might consider it if there's any real interest! I'm struggling with the same feeling as the people I've seen post these things, so we're all in it together haha. EDIT: If anyone has question ideas for the possible form feel free to leave them, if we do end up doing something like this!

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Here on ovarit we feel pretty secure

Ovarit is completely public and we are not secure. Anyone thinking of accessing a Google doc and potentially doxxing yourself, please take note that OP has made one post (this one) and six comments as of the time I'm writing this comment. Stay safe, sisters.

This is true, if you're worried about me please disregard my post. I was a little active on TL, under the same username, and you can still find my Reddit account of the same username. Now on here I mostly only lurk / on Saidit occasionally. Sorry to stir mistrust by my lurking tendencies.

Edit to add: I apologize about my secure on ovarit comment. I was under the impression it felt more secure due to the need for an invite. I appreciate you looking out for others, it's always good to be cautious.

Agreed and thanks for pointing out that we should be wary of anyone without history here. Regardless, I don't think this is a bad idea to help us connect. We're all pretty starved of actual lesbian interaction. I've mentioned this before, but I still favor Discord because you can do voice verification. Just have a moderator we trust and maybe some preliminary checks like what people have mentioned here...

I'm down for something like that. It seems that a lot of people here are wary of it because of the possibility of being doxxed by bad actors though. If someone has a way to implement this without any risk of doxxing, I'm all for it.

[–] Hera 11 points

Seconding all of this! I adore the idea of it (both for dating and for just making pals who won't turn on me for not kowtowing to the gender cult) but I'm so scared of infiltrators and doxxing.

That would be the hard part... the only thing I could think of would be only giving out the link to the doc by DM alone, to proven ovarit members, and then letting people use their own judgement for safety as to when to expose themselves? 🤔 Unfortunately I can't think of any way to vet people other than to have them submit a video with sound of themselves with their entry... but many people aren't comfortable with that, which I myself get also. I don't recall it being that difficult to get an ovarit invite so it is of course risky even on here. Just one of those if it's worth the risk type situations.

What about a verification call via zoom? It's pretty secure and the code can be put on ovarit or dmed or emailed

A doc where people from Ovarit with enough post history can dm and have access to is not a bad idea.

It can be something where women can write an intro/about themselves, what they're looking for and where to contact them, etc. (maybe from a template?). Those who post can be vague about identifying information if they're still worried or connect via throwaway emails for safety.

Yeah, it sucks having seen SO many lesbians saying the same things for years: so many of us feel alone and ostracized and can't seem to connect with anyone like-minded out in the wild, yet there clearly is a pretty significant number of us online all having the same experience. It'd be nice if we could somehow find each other. I'd be interested, but I definitely understand (and share) the fears that most have about being exposed or infiltrated. I'll keep following this post to see what may happen. :)

That's exactly what I think every time I see it. Feel the same sense of being alone, and see others mention it. Thus this idea, that wasn't my original idea haha. I share those fears also... it's sad that the only way to vet ourselves is by video, which could be extremely damning if it fell into the wrong hands. I've started on the form in my hope, but not sure how much will really come of it.

[–] Rhapsody 4 points Edited

Why not just by anonymous voice?

There’s a website called vocaroo where you can upload anonymous voice recordings on your phone.

You can have a secret phrase that changes each day that new members have to say in the audio so it’s less likely someone could pull a recording from somewhere else (which idk how they’d do that in the first place, but better safe than not).

This is a good idea, although someone else mentioned doing a discord to do voice verification, too! They're both good options, hopefully someone can use them and start something.

Please oh my god. like, you have no idea. even if I didnt find a gf, finding other gc lesbians would be like. oh my god so incredible.

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Hey, so I made a google sheet with matchmaking questions, the doc is available to be editted by anyone with the link so I'm only sharing the link via DMs from people with atleast a couple months/handful of posts in their history. Sorry to exclude newer members but I don't know how else to vet on Ovarit. There are a few identifying questions; Ovarit username (not collecting real names/social media handles besides Ovarit on this doc), Age, State/Country/Region (share as much or as little as you like, I included all 3 for myself), and preferred method of communication (do NOT share your social media handles on this doc! Only whether you'd like to communicate via email, social media, discord or what's app--phone isn't a method cus I don't think it's safe to share phone numbers on a public doc--if you want to share social media handles, do that on your Ovarit DMs pls, don't post your contact info in the doc or I will delete it!)

DM me if you'd like the link to the google sheets to share your info! Also if anyone has tips on how to make this more secure I'd love to hear about it :)

This sounds like a great idea! Don’t have much to add besides echoing what has already been said. I’m also happy to help out if I can.

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