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Would love to hear other ladies feelings on falling in love and how you know when you're in love/falling!

I get infatuated quickly, but bored just as easily. But, when love sneaks up on me, it hits like a bus, hard and fast. One day, I'm just enjoying being with her & being intimate and the next moment; I just know, I love her, it's exhilarating and terrifying. A feeling that keeps popping up, in the most mundane of moments, a clarity that I feel deep in my bones. One of the few things I'm absolutely certain about in any given moment.

What about y'all? Hopeless romantics, pragmatic lovers, etc?

Would love to hear other ladies feelings on falling in love and how you know when you're in love/falling! I get infatuated quickly, but bored just as easily. But, when love sneaks up on me, it hits like a bus, hard and fast. One day, I'm just enjoying being with her & being intimate and the next moment; I just know, I love her, it's exhilarating and terrifying. A feeling that keeps popping up, in the most mundane of moments, a clarity that I feel deep in my bones. One of the few things I'm absolutely certain about in any given moment. What about y'all? Hopeless romantics, pragmatic lovers, etc?

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It depends. Sometimes I get infatuated right away, but other cases can take months.

[–] 1r1s_JL 3 points Edited

Fast unfortunately, it's terrifying.

Right? Then you’re caught up in that fucking hell of “shit am I being seen as needy?”

[–] 1r1s_JL 3 points Edited

That is not the problem, human connection is a human basic need you can't unneed and being an asshole to someone for that is stupid and ignorant. Some people only want geniune connetion and not casual and some people are more alone in general and when they find someone they really get along with they feel great (can be as a friedship too), it's just a natural feeling and nothing to be ashamed of.

The problem with falling fast is that you are more prone to get too close too soon, oversee some red flags, getting exposed to being severely hurted by someone that you don't know that much yet so you can't really trust fully. It's just dangerous and takes you into anxious relationships you get scared of losing them if they are not being consistent.

PS: In case you didn't know I invite you to investigate what happens to a baby a little kid they don't have human connection.

One day, I'm just enjoying being with her & being intimate and the next moment; I just know, I love her, it's exhilarating and terrifying.

This sounds similar to the way I experienced it. From introduction to realization it was a slow burn, but then the in-love feeling hit very suddenly and intensely.

By the way, by 'being intimate' do you mean physically? Like falling in love with someone you're already sleeping with?

By the way, by 'being intimate' do you mean physically? Like falling in love with someone you're already sleeping with?

By "being intimate", I meant any sort of intimacy; mainly physical, but also emotional intimacy.

Both, I've fallen for women before we've slept together and after hooking up for awhile. It's like that soft flame just suddenly flickers into a roaring blaze and I can't quite figure out what sparked the change.

I'm a hopeless romantic but I try hard to be pragmatic and don't be too sensitive. I spend too much time thinking about a woman I like and I act like a fan. I also don't get bored easily but it's usually very pleasurable because I don't have any expectations and I'm happy just thinking about her.