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I'm bisexual and just live my life... I think many of us do. I won't deny that people tend to deny and stereotype bisexuals. And that they make our orientation revolve around the heteropatriarchy, when that shouldn't be the case. But there's some Youtuber who claims she's super bisexual. She has lots of followers. But she cames across as such an attention seeker. I don't understand why you have to revolve a channel about 'outfit tips' to look gay, to constantly talk about your orientation, when it turns out that you have a boyfriend.

Of course having a boyfriend doesn't mean a woman isn't bisexual. But generally if you identify as bi for a while and you're openly non-straight (bi/lesbian) you will have shitty experiences and that's why I find it very strange she makes a party out of being bisexual, seemingly never having to suffer the struggles of being in a same sex relationship.

I wouldnt say I am closeted, but I don't make gay struggles and fun about myself when I had nothing to do with it for years and when I pass as straight...

Her name is Dutchy on YouTube, and this video is... so cringy. Just her whole body language. To me she only seems to reinforce a negative stereotype so I don't get why she has so many followers.

I'm bisexual and just live my life... I think many of us do. I won't deny that people tend to deny and stereotype bisexuals. And that they make our orientation revolve around the heteropatriarchy, when that shouldn't be the case. But there's some Youtuber who claims she's super bisexual. She has lots of followers. But she cames across as such an attention seeker. I don't understand why you have to revolve a channel about 'outfit tips' to look gay, to constantly talk about your orientation, when it turns out that you have a boyfriend. **Of course having a boyfriend doesn't mean a woman isn't bisexual.** But generally if you identify as bi for a while and you're openly non-straight (bi/lesbian) you will have shitty experiences and that's why I find it very strange she makes a party out of being bisexual, seemingly never having to suffer the struggles of being in a same sex relationship. I wouldnt say I am closeted, but I don't make gay struggles and fun about myself when I had nothing to do with it for years and when I pass as straight... Her name is Dutchy on YouTube, and [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RyT0XaB5egc&t=378s) video is... so cringy. Just her whole body language. To me she only seems to reinforce a negative stereotype so I don't get why she has so many followers.

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[–] Jack_the_Lass 12 points Edited

I'm a lesbian and I used to ID as bisexual (a common path for lesbians, I know).

I agree that bi people are unnecessarily and unfairly stereotyped. However, I find it really frustrating that bi women who are, for all intents and purposes, heteroromantic (the "i like to have threesomes with my boyfriend" type) get to speak over women who actually live with and love other women in lgbt spaces, and then have the audacity to complain about their stereotypes. Yes, I am stereotyping some bi women in this statement, but there are a lot of bi women that do this. And they're not doing any favors to their fellow bi women either - the type who actually date and love other women. These types of women are all over r/actuallesbians shutting down the...actual lesbians.

Its frustrating. They don't share the same experiences as lesbians or bi women who date other women. I would not argue that a woman in hetero relationship is no longer bi, but no, you don't get to claim a "queer" experience without actually having a queer experience. (I mean this about women who have fucked other women but not actually dated them).

I'm sorry if my little rant offends any bisexual people here. I would assume if you're in this space "loving women" you are not the bisexual person I am speaking about.

IDK if I am expressing my feelings correctly. I just get frustrated.

edit for a typo