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I'm currently in a relationship with a man but I don't think it is working out. I have a very strong preference for women, but it seems like I keep dating men simply because they're convenient rather than because I'm actually attracted to them.

I would much rather date a woman, but I have a lot of difficulty just finding women who aren't straight without going to spaces explicitly for LGBT people. Unfortunately, I haven't found any spaces in my city that drop the T, and I don't think I would get on well with someone who expects me to change my political beliefs to include autogynophile acceptance.

I'm kinda stuck here, so advice would be appreciated. Thank you in advance to anyone who takes the time to respond!

I'm currently in a relationship with a man but I don't think it is working out. I have a very strong preference for women, but it seems like I keep dating men simply because they're convenient rather than because I'm actually attracted to them. I would much rather date a woman, but I have a lot of difficulty just finding women who aren't straight without going to spaces explicitly for LGBT people. Unfortunately, I haven't found any spaces in my city that drop the T, and I don't think I would get on well with someone who expects me to change my political beliefs to include autogynophile acceptance. I'm kinda stuck here, so advice would be appreciated. Thank you in advance to anyone who takes the time to respond!

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I think a lot of it is word of mouth and friends of friends. If you know a normie or gender critical lesbian couple, they likely have similarly minded friends. Of course, finding that first person/people is harder…

Not LGBTBBQ spaces, though, that’s for sure.

The only lesbians I know irl are my aunts who may be too old to know anyone my age. I guess I could try asking anyway?