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I personally was in denial of being a lesbian until my first year of college. I went from thinking I was hetero, to aromantic asexual, to homoromantic asexual. Then I weened myself off of the antidepressants I had been taking since middle school… and I could no longer pretend I was ace once my sex drive finally kicked into gear lol.

The whole process between straight and lesbian took about 5 years though. I’m not sure if that qualifies as late bloomer status or not. The few lesbians I’ve met said they knew their orientation in middle school, and the bisexuals usually said they knew by high school.

What about you guys?

I personally was in denial of being a lesbian until my first year of college. I went from thinking I was hetero, to aromantic asexual, to homoromantic asexual. Then I weened myself off of the antidepressants I had been taking since middle school… and I could no longer pretend I was ace once my sex drive finally kicked into gear lol. The whole process between straight and lesbian took about 5 years though. I’m not sure if that qualifies as late bloomer status or not. The few lesbians I’ve met said they knew their orientation in middle school, and the bisexuals usually said they knew by high school. What about you guys?

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Same I think part of the reason it so long for me too was because of the hostile environment. The lesbian on my high school basketball team was called a freak and predator behind her back all the time. I internalized lesbian as this shameful thing and convinced myself I couldn’t be one of them. I finally felt safe from judgement in college though.

Oh definitely, I remember two girls in my grade kissed for the entertainment of the boys, and then were horrendously bullied for being ‘lesbians’.

It was just something you weren’t supposed to be, it was something I didn’t want to be, I wanted to be normal.

It took me until university to realise I was normal, and I wasn’t on my own.