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I personally was in denial of being a lesbian until my first year of college. I went from thinking I was hetero, to aromantic asexual, to homoromantic asexual. Then I weened myself off of the antidepressants I had been taking since middle school… and I could no longer pretend I was ace once my sex drive finally kicked into gear lol.

The whole process between straight and lesbian took about 5 years though. I’m not sure if that qualifies as late bloomer status or not. The few lesbians I’ve met said they knew their orientation in middle school, and the bisexuals usually said they knew by high school.

What about you guys?

I personally was in denial of being a lesbian until my first year of college. I went from thinking I was hetero, to aromantic asexual, to homoromantic asexual. Then I weened myself off of the antidepressants I had been taking since middle school… and I could no longer pretend I was ace once my sex drive finally kicked into gear lol. The whole process between straight and lesbian took about 5 years though. I’m not sure if that qualifies as late bloomer status or not. The few lesbians I’ve met said they knew their orientation in middle school, and the bisexuals usually said they knew by high school. What about you guys?

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I don’t really know. I guess I was always interested in women as role models, favourite characters, friends, etc more so then men. I didn’t really question it because it made sense for it to be people similar to you. I also freaked out whenever lesbians were in movies/television because I wanted to watch but not look too interested.

At school, there was one girl who I really liked, I just thought I wanted to be her friend so that’s what we became (& still are). I had no idea it was anything different - the unable to recognise/identify feelings of being autistic makes things hard. Over the years, the same sort of thing occurred with other girls in the class, though my feelings towards the first girl never went away. I didn’t think I had a chance with her, there was no way she could be attracted to women too, let alone me when there are so many amazing women out there & I’m not one of them.

There was one teacher, the science teacher, I really liked her & looked up to her greatly. Unlike my other teachers, she wasn’t married, no relationship (that she told us), fairly gnc, very handy, wore loose clothing, so many random skills up until that point I hadn’t seen someone like her before. Fun Home had just started it’s Broadway run & they used Ring of Keys for the Tony Awards performance & I remember thinking that’s me with my science teacher. I got as much Fun Home stuff as I could get my hands on & managed to see the show during its run. I realised I was a lesbian after that though didn’t start telling people a few years later before the end of high school.

Once I got to university, I became more comfortable being a lesbian, which was greatly helped by my dear friend who’s also a lesbian. I realised the girl I liked more than the others at school, was actually a decade long crush. The Prom had just finished its Broadway run & it plus other life events encouraged me to contact her for the first time in years & I told her finally after over a decade & moved on since she now has a girlfriend. Now it’s now.