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I personally was in denial of being a lesbian until my first year of college. I went from thinking I was hetero, to aromantic asexual, to homoromantic asexual. Then I weened myself off of the antidepressants I had been taking since middle school… and I could no longer pretend I was ace once my sex drive finally kicked into gear lol.

The whole process between straight and lesbian took about 5 years though. I’m not sure if that qualifies as late bloomer status or not. The few lesbians I’ve met said they knew their orientation in middle school, and the bisexuals usually said they knew by high school.

What about you guys?

I personally was in denial of being a lesbian until my first year of college. I went from thinking I was hetero, to aromantic asexual, to homoromantic asexual. Then I weened myself off of the antidepressants I had been taking since middle school… and I could no longer pretend I was ace once my sex drive finally kicked into gear lol. The whole process between straight and lesbian took about 5 years though. I’m not sure if that qualifies as late bloomer status or not. The few lesbians I’ve met said they knew their orientation in middle school, and the bisexuals usually said they knew by high school. What about you guys?

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I'm very similar, I was obsessed with my 2nd grade teacher Ms. Valtitorni. I had a lot of innocent curshes until middle school... and then it's like I just blocked it all out. I think the antidepressants played a big role but I think I also consciously pushed down my feelings too. I always felt awkward trying to connect with my friends over boys, which is what led me to believe I was ace. I think it's great you're not rushing to label yourself. I fell down that hill and it was a slippery slope with all the labels like demisexual/romantic attraction/etc.