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I personally was in denial of being a lesbian until my first year of college. I went from thinking I was hetero, to aromantic asexual, to homoromantic asexual. Then I weened myself off of the antidepressants I had been taking since middle school… and I could no longer pretend I was ace once my sex drive finally kicked into gear lol.

The whole process between straight and lesbian took about 5 years though. I’m not sure if that qualifies as late bloomer status or not. The few lesbians I’ve met said they knew their orientation in middle school, and the bisexuals usually said they knew by high school.

What about you guys?

I personally was in denial of being a lesbian until my first year of college. I went from thinking I was hetero, to aromantic asexual, to homoromantic asexual. Then I weened myself off of the antidepressants I had been taking since middle school… and I could no longer pretend I was ace once my sex drive finally kicked into gear lol. The whole process between straight and lesbian took about 5 years though. I’m not sure if that qualifies as late bloomer status or not. The few lesbians I’ve met said they knew their orientation in middle school, and the bisexuals usually said they knew by high school. What about you guys?

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I 'came out' as lesbian to my younger brother when I was 12, he said nothing and just stared at the floor. Years later he came out to me himself, so it's just funny now rather than hurtful. I went 'back in' due to religion, homophobic family, danger where I live, etc. until i was about 20. I never officially came out again. I've been asked if I'm asexual by a brother, then my mom asked me "what are you" basically because she couldn't tell anymore if I was bi or lesbian or what lmao. Now everyone just kinda knows, and nobody cares really. In a good way. So when I was 11 I first started thinking I liked girls, came out at 12, went back in, went through trans phase age 17-,19ish but told no one then, and then lesbian at 20.

That's how I kind of "came out" too. I just started dating women without ever making some sort of official announcement