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I personally was in denial of being a lesbian until my first year of college. I went from thinking I was hetero, to aromantic asexual, to homoromantic asexual. Then I weened myself off of the antidepressants I had been taking since middle school… and I could no longer pretend I was ace once my sex drive finally kicked into gear lol.

The whole process between straight and lesbian took about 5 years though. I’m not sure if that qualifies as late bloomer status or not. The few lesbians I’ve met said they knew their orientation in middle school, and the bisexuals usually said they knew by high school.

What about you guys?

I personally was in denial of being a lesbian until my first year of college. I went from thinking I was hetero, to aromantic asexual, to homoromantic asexual. Then I weened myself off of the antidepressants I had been taking since middle school… and I could no longer pretend I was ace once my sex drive finally kicked into gear lol. The whole process between straight and lesbian took about 5 years though. I’m not sure if that qualifies as late bloomer status or not. The few lesbians I’ve met said they knew their orientation in middle school, and the bisexuals usually said they knew by high school. What about you guys?

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I know two others who figured it out after coming off antidepressants so I don't think it's too unusual. Hope you've found a better way to deal with the depression.

There was no discovery, just this sinking feeling whenever I looked at certain girls. + a tendency towards GNC and being called a lesbian and a qu*** at school.

My hometown got their first Pride when I was 17. There were 150 people, mostly allies. It was just normal people taking a stroll, not the kink-filled multi-coloured militant mess of Pride in big cities.

I'm in a big city now and all the upper middle class 'queers' get on my nerves. This year I lost my friend group after accidentally outing myself in the group chat, but I'm over that.

Dang I'm sorry about your friends, it sounds like the weren't worth keeping anyway. I only go to family-friendly prides now because I can't stand the regular ones too.

Thanks, but I think only had acute depression due to some stuff that happened to me. Instead of treating the root problem my psychiatrist thought it would be better to throw pills around. I was worried getting off of them would cause my depression to come back but I've never felt better. My only side effects during weening were headaches. I can't believe I was convinced to stay on them for so many years.