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There’s lots to be said, and much has already been said, about the Queer/Trans invasion of spaces for lesbian and bisexual women. I guess what I am wondering is, how do we resist this type of colonization? Having women-centered spaces like Ovarit online is one thing, but keeping spaces and circles for ourselves in the real world is another.

I have heard so many stories about one TIM/male enby/straight female enby destroying the integrity of WLW groups. With the frequency this is happening it becomes apparent, at least to me that lesbians and bisexual women need to start becoming aggressive at pushing back against this. But how do we do this without going underground? I’m somewhat baffled as to how gay men have managed to keep TIF free spaces public while all exclusively lesbian events are now on the downlow. What are some strategies we can use in our everyday lives in our communities to be gatekeepers and keep spaces only for homo/bi women?

There’s lots to be said, and much has already been said, about the Queer/Trans invasion of spaces for lesbian and bisexual women. I guess what I am wondering is, how do we resist this type of colonization? Having women-centered spaces like Ovarit online is one thing, but keeping spaces and circles for ourselves in the real world is another. I have heard so many stories about one TIM/male enby/straight female enby destroying the integrity of WLW groups. With the frequency this is happening it becomes apparent, at least to me that lesbians and bisexual women need to start becoming aggressive at pushing back against this. But how do we do this without going underground? I’m somewhat baffled as to how gay men have managed to keep TIF free spaces public while all exclusively lesbian events are now on the downlow. What are some strategies we can use in our everyday lives in our communities to be gatekeepers and keep spaces only for homo/bi women?

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There are two ways to keep TIMs and straights out of your WLW space for sure:

  1. Require women to sign up as members to attend. It can be as simple as adding their name to a list, or elaborate as requiring membership fees and issuing laminated membership cards. Or,
  2. Register as a religious group. Religious groups can set whatever rules they like, while remaining open to the public. You don't have to believe in god to participate in a religious group. For example many Unitarians are atheists, and something like the Church of Women's Liberation was founded exactly for this kind of preservation of female spaces. Exulansic is also starting a religious organization for this purpose!

So yeah, it's totally doable!

The thing about the church is so cool and interesting to me. It’s also a great way to build community even if the group is secular focused.

I used to be a Unitarian, before I detransed. It was actually really cool, aside from the trans propaganda. It was very feminist and uplifting, and of course LGB people were fully welcomed.

You shouldn't need to believe in god to enjoy singing together with people on Sunday, listening to an uplifting and life-affirming presentation, having somewhere wholesome to bring your kids, celebrating the changing seasons, etc. etc.

I know so many people with lives of grey monotony, spending all their time in front of the computer, buying everything on Amazon, etc. I'm a firm believer in "go to the farmers' market. Go to the women-owned yarn shop. Visit the library. Plant a garden. Join the organization. Go to the protest. Spend your money on something real. Exist in meatspace, don't let them take it from us."