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One of my favorite things in the world to do is just walk. I walk for hours and miles. It's how I cleared my head. Years ago, there was a post I read asking women what they'd do at night that men can do safely. A woman replied she'd love to walk around her city at night and see the stars. That hit me hard. It made me think over what I've done subconsciously over the years while walking. I have to make sure I'm home by dark just in case. I try to walk in certain areas or down streets where I see people doing yard work or playing with their kids in case I'm shoved into a van (I've had a guy in a truck be creepy and I turned down a street toward a family playing in their front yard to get away from him). A serial rapist assaulted 2 high school girls jogging around a park near my home a few years ago. He was caught. Why can't we just walk and not have to be on guard the entire time? It would be so freeing. RIP Zara. I wish we could have walked together.

I used to take the dog for a walk before school at 6 in the morning. Being a naive child it never occurred to me that this was anything but a relaxing thing to do at a peaceful, magical time of the day.

It is an absolute disgrace that anybody is even asking ‘why was she out at 3am’. There is no curfew on women in the UK and even if there was I don’t think the authorised punishment would be rape and murder. How about we ask why the murderer was out at 3am skulking for victims? Or that you get a better police response if you occupy a Russian oligarch’s mansion or annoy politicians by protesting at Parliament Square daily?

Not to mention that plenty of people- like office cleaners who are mostly women - start their shifts around 3 or 4am. Not that women need an excuse for being out at any time. It is disturbing that it is so normalised to see murderers and rapists part of the ‘natural order’ around which women should plan and organise but less so to prevent these crimes.

Julie Bindel nails it here:


And yet the other day I read some TRA apologist’s article about traumatised rape victims needing to be more inclusive because ‘stranger danger’ isn’t really a thing. Sure it’s less rare than being attacked by somebody you know but it’s enough of a thing to make all women vigilant and for society to blame them for not ‘knowing better’ than to be outside the house without a male guardian.