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[–] MissBehaved 32 points Edited

Keep children off of the internet. That includes tiktok. They should view nothing that hasn't been reviewed by a parent first. This whole thing comes down to keeping kids offline. There's no excuse now; we know it is harmful and that porn is impossible to avoid.

My parents didn't let me watch TV or get a phone or anything like that for most of my life. I used to scorn them for it because I was constantly living under a rock but now I appreciate it more than anything. I'm 18, and some of the ideas that kids are exposed to and brainwashed into believing are normal... they're so misogynist and totally inappropriate.

As a fellow rock dweller I agree.

It wasn't until I was way older in my 20's that I discovered a lot of crap that was hidden from me and I'm pretty sure it would have traumatized younger me because it upsets me now! Kids are fed all kind of BS and it's so friggin' easy for them to be swept up. Parents need to monitor their kids, especially their sons.

[–] MissBehaved 10 points Edited

For TV I only had the few free channels. We didn't even have a computer until I was 14, and my parents bought dial up internet only until I was around 17. At 17 I built my own desktop for my bedroom mostly to play mmorpgs with friends. I thought I was deprived being poor, turns out that was likely the best possible thing for me. The first iPhone came out when I was 18/19 so that wasn't an issue. I think phones are probably the biggest thing that will be hard to tackle because kids see their friends with smart phones sharing things with each other. Not giving them a smart phone might make them a social pariah to some extent unfortunately. But I'm going to do what I can to avoid one

Seriously. People treat me like I’m insane because I plan on not letting my (now a baby) son on the internet, have a smart phone, or own a bunch of console games, but I’ve simply seen too much and I don’t want him growing up to be degenerate like so many of them/their kids, etc.

I have 50% custody of my kids and my ex is not onboard with this. My daughter watches tiktok videos her friends show her. What am I supposed to do, ban her from playing with all her friends? Literally NO ONE else is on board with this approach in my area.I do my best, I keep them off the internet here, I do pre-watch things and watch with them and we discuss what we are watching and I try to explain in terms they can understand why tiktok is bad and loss of digital privacy is bad, but it feels very hopeless. And then I get here and get a comment like this telling me I have no excuses. I don't know what else I am supposed to do.

[–] MissBehaved 3 points Edited

You are doing everything you can do. I don't know why you think that my comment was an accusation of failure directed at you. It certainly takes more than just one parent to do it. I'm saying society has no excuse, we, as a society, know it is harmful. "something something it takes a village..." My husband and I want to keep our kids off the internet, but my step son's (9) mother isn't internet savvy and doesn't know the danger it poses, she doesn't limit him or monitor him at all because she thinks he just plays Roblox and watches kids' videos. So what can we do? Nothing while he's with her. COVID online school didn't help. But I firmly believe we all need to work together as a group to keep kids away from the internet, and educate each other on its dangers. There are schools requiring laptops now, children keep their phones on them during class... Why?