I’ve been seriously wondering if I should delete Twitter. I started spending way too much time on it during COVID, and now check it far too often. It can’t be good for me.

[–] Lilith 8 points Edited

"I'd rather be strong than frail."

Men hire these thin models with no muscle mass to represent the feminine ideal, plaster her everywhere and teach girls to emulate that look. They mock women like Michelle Obama who have upper body strength, because they feel emasculated when they see a woman who could beat them in a fight and most men don't workout either.

I love women recognizing the game is rigged and then doing the exact opposite of what we're conditioned to do.

I did this too, stopped following beautiful people and basically arm wrestled my feed into being about dogs and things I’m interested in.

I felt so much better when I got rid of Facebook especially

Pretty much. I try not to touch any algorithmic social media and the few I do have, my entire feed is just reptile keepers, fursuit makers, my friend's art and alternative fashion. I keep them isolated to my most fringe interests and even THEN I still sometimes get the ultra photoshopped local egirls suggested to me, but presumably way more rarely than others who get it 24/7. My mom follows an art tag on IG and p much only follows museums and somehow she gets the egirl posts more often than I do.

I think it’s because the algorithm works out that your a woman and roughly what age you are and then pushes that on you

For a while I was looking up trucks, hiking and camping gear almost everyday because of some trips myself and my partner are planing and started getting mens grooming gear advertised to me.

One thing I’ve also done is “hidden” the girlfriends I have that are prone to uploading hyper filtered pictures of themselves. Even though I know they don’t really look like that it really bothered me and I kept comparing myself to them. I try to actively not look at any of those kinds of images because I know it messes with my self esteem

I'm so lucky in that sense (the thing with friends). My best friend actually worked as a model for a time but she doesn't do that overfiltered stuff now. She goes on Snapchat and makes goofy faces out of her pics.

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Commenter 1: It's interesting how after you stop using social media, your brain no longer accepts photos or videos containing filters or edits as a matter of course. That's what happened to me, at least. I stopped using it and I became more aware that what I'm seeing is not natural, and honestly, you start to think it's even weird how beauty is treated on social media.

Commenter 2: I experienced something similar. I still use social media, but I kind of made my algorithm change to be more geared towards my hobbies and ranch and horse stuff, and not girls I would wish to look like. Now that I've done that and spent more time observing beautiful people and their flaws in real life and even in Love Island (sounds stupid I know, but it allows me to see how even the most beautiful people aren't perfect all the time and have flaws but are still considered stunning), I can barely stand to look at photos of instagram models and influencers. The surgeries and filters and photoshop is so painfully obvious. I don't find them attractive or desirable anymore, and I embrace my flaws more and even see them as contributing to my beauty

Commenter 3: And if you're a bit older. I'm 31 and couldn't care less about these weird photoshopped aliens. It does all look so strange and not appealing if you're not constantly following those people and being brainwashed by what they're promoting. I always think, if I ate like that, I wouldn't be able to climb a mountain (or other fitness activity). I'd rather be strong than frail.