Literally, the number of times I've seen people even say the mother was "too loving".. I mean, like Hitler ffs.
There's evidence of his radicalisation as a young man, he went through the trauma of the first world war, he had an abusive father, and yet people STILL make out the reason he was a killer was because he was close to his mother and she mollycoddled him.
And yet, if she'd been distant or disinterested you know THAT would be the reason.
The same with Jimmy Saville. People always look to the relationship with the mother in order to explain the acts of the son, and whatever they find is confirmation bias; (delete as required) Mothers shouldn't have multiple relationships/be divorced/have lots of children/only have one child/be poor/be sex workers/be rich/work full time/be unemployed/be chronically ill/be religious/reject religion/be feminist/ be traditional/be strict/be easy-going with rules and they mustn't mollycoddle/dismiss/neglect/abuse/dote on/spoil their children or they'll create psychopaths.
The pure acrobatics this society does to avoid simply admitting that men are enabled and even encouraged to commit violent and hateful acts in this society. I mean, just look at TRAs, wielding their baseball bats.
men are enabled and even encouraged to commit violent and hateful acts in this society
This is the truth. It takes great strength of character (normally fostered by great mothering) for a man to reject this. No man fully rejects it.
Men with childhood trauma do more commonly go on to become abusers themselves, however that's because being an abuser is modeled for them by the culture around them and often by their own fathers. This myth that is perpetuated because of misogyny couldn't be further from the truth: when it is carefully studied, the real determinant of whether a boy goes on to abuse women, depends on how his father behaved. He's clearly taking cues from the father, not the mother. These boys will blame their mothers for not protecting them from their fathers, or they will look down on the weakness of the mother and simply think less of her because of her lack of power. It is so obvious that these abusive boys are identifying with their abusive fathers.
Or they credit his father with having raised him right even though Daddy was probably a workaholic away from home for 60 hours a week and grumpy and uncommunicative when he was home.
I know it’s hip to blame mothers for everything, but few children are raised in bubbles. Mothers are not the sole cause of traumatic socialization of boys, come on now.