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[–] BlackCirce 🔮🐖🐖🐖 31 points

Women tell men to go to therapy (ask them to change) in lieu of fighting them and creating a sufficient community defense. Focusing inwardly on mothers traumatizing their sons is not opposite or contradictory to telling men to go to therapy, it’s more of the same. It’s more of “men are hurting us because they are hurt and if we encourage them to get help or help them ourselves, they will stop hurting us.”

If you’ve heard the aphorism “if all you have is a hammer, every problem looks like a nail,” it’s like that. Women’s only tool for fixing problems is loving/caring/soothing, so every problem becomes a wound or a lack of love and kindness. It’s true that women bear the responsibility for liberating ourselves from men, but that doesn’t mean trying to keep all the structures of exploitation intact (gender, marriage/prostitution, protection racket) while begging men to be nicer within them, nor does it mean trying to find some alternative form of power (the “just like them” syndrome) that is more morally comfortable for us. It means accepting men for what they are and accepting power for what it is and taking it for women’s benefit.

Women’s only tool for fixing problems is loving/caring/soothing, so every problem becomes a wound or a lack of love and kindness.

Damn, great point.