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[–] spinningintelllect 81 points (+81|-0)

I am so sorry to anyone going through this. You were a kid, and it wasn't your fault. You don't ever have to be ashamed of your body, no matter what adults did to it. You are a survivor of something horrible and there are more and more people learning to recognize that.

[–] DontDoxxMe [speaking as mod] [OP] Done With Nice 17 points (+17|-0)

Wish I could pin your comment, but even on Reddit we mods couldn’t pin user comments. There’s Truth and Empathy in your comment and thank you for writing it.

[–] eris 40 points (+41|-1)

I remember some years ago when Angelina Jolie had a preventative double mastectomy because she is genetically predisposed for cancer. She was described as hysterical and irrational (and the women who se inspired to get tested as foolish) for mutilating her body because she was in high risk of a serious illness.

Yet most people seem fine with young girls having their breasts cut off because they want to be treated like human beings...

[–] pennygadget 31 points (+31|-0)

What's even more ironic (and sad) is that those same assholes who called Jolie hysterical for removing her breasts due to cancer risk are clamoring for her tomboy daughter Shiloh to come out as a trans-boy and have the same surgery

[–] Sylvanas 14 points (+14|-0) Edited

The BRCA gene is no joke. I know of a woman who delayed the decision of whether to undergo a preventative mastectomy till it was too late, thinking she could just be extra cautious and do frequent screenings and tests to detect the cancer early. It didn’t work that way.

I didn’t know Angelina Jolie’s story and shocked to hear anyone would criticise her for making a medically necessary choice.

This is a tough decision to make, even when one’s real physical health hangs in the balance. It seems absurd to me that teenagers opt in for this willy nilly, and that the medical establishment accommodates this whim so easily.

[–] I_am_so_over_it 10 points (+10|-0)

Their brains are nowhere near developed enough to make permanent decisions like this. It is so fucked.

[–] Julie92845 6 points (+6|-0) Edited

I’m shocked by anyone who has surgery just for looks, assuming they aren’t disfigured. Surgery is terrifying.

I was so nervous I was nearly crying when I had a hymenal tag removed and that was nothing more than a shot of lidocaine and I felt nothing else.

(It wasn’t just for looks, it made sex and tampons painful.)

[–] Sylvanas 3 points (+3|-0) Edited

Also I can’t believe all they give you for that is lidocaine. Not even Oxycodone or whatnot? Sounds painful

[–] Sylvanas 3 points (+3|-0) Edited

Any surgery entails some risk, anaesthesia alone involves some small chance of not waking up. When I had to go through surgery I was told it’s 1% chance of death.

[–] Julie92845 3 points (+3|-0)

Maybe we traveled in different circles but everyone I heard speak on it said Jolie was making a reasonable decision.

[–] legopants 23 points (+23|-0)

This makes me so sad. No one listens to us women sharing the reality of transitioning and all of this and then we have young people ending up like this, and they wish they listened, but now it's far too late. Her body is scarred for life. I hope she's able to find happiness and comfort somehow.

[–] DontDoxxMe [OP] Done With Nice 11 points (+11|-0)

Same. My heart goes out to her. I hope she has comfort and joy in life, I hope she has friends and family who will listen to her anger and sorrow, her highs and lows, I hope the best for her.

[–] IrishTheFrenchie 20 points (+20|-0)

Predatory adults who are pushing this nonsense are doing this to our youth. This hurts my heart to see happening.

[–] DontDoxxMe [OP] Done With Nice 19 points (+19|-0)

Predatory surgeons and doctors looking for “willing” test subjects is what it is frankly. Just cuz one is a doctor doesn’t mean one is morally doing good. We’ve had too many instances where they definitely DO harm.

[–] Sylvanas 8 points (+8|-0)

It’s greed. That’s what’s driving these unnecessary and harmful surgeries. It’s a trend coming from the U.S., where medicine is a for-profit business. I’m not surprised that countries like UK and Sweden, where healthcare is a public service, are taking action to restrict transitioning of kids lately.

Medicine should not be a money making business.

[–] Sunkised 11 points (+11|-0)

And transcult would say they were never trans so it doesn't count. Madness

[–] basetenprefix 9 points (+9|-0)

The trans movement really downplays how traumatizing it can be to recover from surgery and then see your body full of scars for the rest of your life.

[–] crodish 9 points (+9|-0)

I was confused why this was in Radfemmery since we normally make T the butt of jokes here, and then decided not to think too much. The poor girl, I hope she finds peace with herself.

[–] DontDoxxMe [OP] Done With Nice 9 points (+9|-0)

Like with my old r/trollgc I try to host a bunch of stuff that wouldn’t fit elsewhere. I’ve hosted other detrans stuff like this https://ovarit.com/o/Radfemmery/3089/from-a-women-who-desisted. She was a mutual long ago and with all our detrans sisters, nieces, friends I hope the best for them, I want them comforted and listened to

[–] spacykate 2 points (+2|-0)

Maybe there should be a o/detrans section?

[–] DontDoxxMe [speaking as mod] [OP] Done With Nice 6 points (+6|-0)

We have a detrans circle for women who have desisted or detransed. It is only for those women tho, just like o/lesbians is just for lesbians.

My meme circle hosts not just memes but screenshots so it fits here too.

[–] Sylvanas 4 points (+4|-0)

Breaks my heart reading this. I’m angry at the medical establishment that did this to her.