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[–] usernamezerozero 20 points (+20|-0)

This makes me want to cry for my daughter.

[–] Free_Metis RadFem McGonagal 19 points (+19|-0) Edited

Same.

I'm going to do my best not to let her get fed that prince charming narrative. I'm putting together a list of movies, shows, and books that have strong girls/women who don't look for or fall in love. I know I can't control everything she sees, hears, or learns. But it can't hurt to show her a better version of what girls can be and do than what everyone else is going to tell her.

As for how terrible boys/men can be, that will be covered under discussions and news stories.

I will not send her into the world blind.

[–] FireproofWitch 18 points (+18|-0)

Hello, there! I know you didn’t exactly ask for recommendations, but may I still offer some?

The first version of Disney’s Mulan is exceptional at presenting both GNC actions and characters as well as sidestepping an obvious love story. I still consider it the movie of my childhood, and I can’t stand Disney.

If you’re willing to look into anime, check out Studio Ghibli’s offerings, especially Nausicaa of the Valley of the Wind, My Neighbour Totoro and Spirited Away, which are either: 1) very subtle in romantic implications or 2) devoid of romance altogether. Also, for western animation, check out the stop motion adaptation of Coraline - it’s got an absolutely stellar plot and a very unique atmosphere for a kids’ movie (although this borders on horror, so be wary if your child is sensitive).

[–] izzy314 3 points (+3|-0)

Mulan is my favorite Disney 'princess'. Always has been. I love Studio Ghibli. My favorite is Kiki's Delivery Service, but my son's favorite is Totoro and I love that he gets to see two awesome little girls as protagonists having adventures. He's even pretended to be them. The book Coraline is wonderful too, and there's a great graphic novel version.

For tv shows, we love Peg plus Cat. A girl doing math, with a cat companion, and solving problems? Amazing! He used to watch Madeline too and we still really like the Christmas special.

[–] mountainwitch 9 points (+9|-0)

I'm trying to do the same with my son. I want him to see strong girls/women in media and have an innate understanding of the danger men pose to women and children. I am trying not to scare him, but to make him aware for his own safety. Hopefully this carries into adulthood and he becomes empathetic to the plight of women.

this is so important. There's this idea that boys aren't interested in stories with female main characters, but it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. If they see a variety of heroes early on it sticks with them.

seconding studio ghibli - totoro and ponyo are great for preschoolers (though ponyo's ending is kinda weird, you might want to pre view it and see what you think.) I'd save spirited away, nausicaa and kiki for elementary school, and princess mononoke for middle school and up.

I'm not generally a disney fan but moana was actually really good. Kickass but 3 dimensional heroine and no romantic subplot at all.

and of course avatar the last airbender. The first season has some mis-steps but is decent overall, and the second introduces one of my favorite female characters of all time.