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See, this is why we need to be gentle with each other here and not respond to posts with “I can’t believe you think you’re a feminist if you/your hubby think/believe/do that”.

Most if not all of us have been conditioned and groomed by the patriarchy, and it’s very hard to dis-entangle yourself, especially if you thought you had found (or been found by) your prince and now have kids, and/or maybe no way to support yourself (and your children), or at least not easily.

Also remember that the wider family is often heavily invested in the narrative, and a woman bucking the trend and refusing to be abused any longer is often the one labelled as the problem, not the abuser. So extracting yourself from the fairy tale can mean losing your support network, right at the time you need it most.