The framing of "I need to be in a loving relationship before I want sex with someone" as part of the asexual spectrum (honesty wtf?) is ridiculous.

Who exactly is setting up "I always want to shag everyone" as the standard in society? The straight queers? Incels?

Not to mention that I don't understand the need to publicise anything about your preferences - especially if in a long term committed relationship. I'm bi. I'm also married. I feel no desire or need to discuss/announce my bisexuality, because it means nothing unless I'm dating.

Everyone is so desperate to be seen as interesting and be talked about on social media. It's tragic.

So true. Bisexual and in commited relationship myself, it always baffles me when non single ppl come out as bi, or recently pansexual. Nobody cares and furthermore, what is your partner supposed to do with that information? Propose a threesome?

what is your partner supposed to do with that information? Propose a threesome?

Your partner and every single weirdo who overhears you, yep. That’s the protocol.

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I'm bi and been in a relationship with a man for a very long time, I can assure you the number of times my sexuality was relevant in social events was closer to 0 than 10.

Clearly, you missed a lot of opportunities to loudly self-identify as LGBTQWERTY+ in social settings for attention.

Feels so strange after years of dealing with anti-gay shit from strangers and my family, most of it quite painful, to be married to a man and never have the fact that i'm bisexual ever come up, yet it feels icky to try and "use" it to score some kind of internet point so I just never talk about it.

This post reads like someone entering the Karen years who feels a desperate need to be relevant, cool and not a Karen.