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[–] arylcyclohexie 7 points (+7|-0)

yeah i agree.

there's the initial layer of mental illness and/or trauma that causes someone to transition which doesn't fix their problems at all. now they have to overcome the cult and what is a new mental illness, on top of the original which has definitely been exacerbated. then they lose all their friends and very often times they don't have much support anymore. right? the government doesn't even support us. it's hard to make it sound as much as it is. you have to reform your entire mind and world.

i think someone is successful for getting through any part of this. we will have scars forever but isn't being detrans rather than trans a success story? it's just really hard to feel like that when you're repercussions are dire. it is breaking out of a cult. i wish it was an exaggeration. it's hard to feel happy for any success. it's really hard to see people who haven't figured it out yet because i know they'll be hurting soon, too.

definitely, all mental illness can be a cause for transition now. totally not just body dysmorphia, even in 2012 peak tumblr years people could sneak by and still transition. what about all the websites telling you what to say to your doctor to get hormones? i was on tumblr at 13. i wasn't looking at trans blogs specifically but i would see trans posts from time to time... i was very mentally ill, vulnerable, and on the internet 24/7. it screwed me up. i never had much body dysmorphia until i found yaoi blogs then wanted to be a "pretty guy" because i felt subpar as a girl. i started noticing new insecurities about my body but because i already knew about trans, i put 2 + 2 together and thought that's why. instead of you know, just being a teenaged girl is really hard and boys weren't into me lol. i then bring autism into the mix omggg being mentally ill and online as a child is why i even thought possible to change sex. this topic does get a little bit complex

note: deleted comment was me. i said "yes" to "are you sure?" but i meant no. trying to edit for typos, i'm not great at typing :) said something like ""it's successful in that we woke up, but it's hard to feel like that or even bittersweet when you are missing a bunch of a body parts and it didn't have to happen"

[–] Cessatrix 1 points (+1|-0)

I'm worried about my niece in middle school, going through her awkward phase constantly online. Do you have any advice for how I can support her?