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[–] meranii 28 points (+28|-0)

The media absolutely LOVES "girl power" when it comes across in a cute little dress, makeup and heels. As soon as you're not assertive in a cute, very conformist way or make men uncomfortable in any way, they'll treat you like a leper.

[–] hedy 20 points (+20|-0)

So as soon as you're assertive.

[–] meranii 11 points (+11|-0)

Yup. One is non-threatening and basically a male fantasy, the other one's actually being assertive.

[–] Captain_AFAB 14 points (+14|-0)

This is something I keep encountering in my life. In the last few years I've gone from being an absolute doormat to being willing to stand up for myself, and there are so many people who will tell me what a great thing this is until the very second I push back against or disagree with anything they say or do—then out come the guilt trips and the outrage that I would dare defy them.

People don't actually want women to be assertive. Be assertive anyway. My life is way better without letting these people constrain me to be convenient for them.

[–] puffyfluffyleaves 12 points (+12|-0) Edited

Maybe I'm being picky, but does the word "girl-boss" bother anyone else? I think it's the word "girl" that bothers me. We're adults, we're women. Does the word boss have to much power that you have to infantilize us into girls instead of women? I guess I would feel differently of a woman identified with this word, but with people my own age (university-ish age) I have only heard this used to be sarcastic or describe MLM scheme women.

[–] cookiefacegirl1 4 points (+4|-0)

I see what you mean. You're not the it one who sees it. I also don't like the saying boss b word. In my experience I don't hear men calling themselves boys or calling themselves derogatory words like the b word.

[–] lesbifriends 2 points (+2|-0)

Someone pointed this out on the old r/GC and it’s bothered me ever since, so you’re not the only one.

[–] HarpyMarx 6 points (+6|-0)

Twisty Faster at I Blame the Patriarchy coined the term “empowerfulized” for just this thing.

[–] zuubat 5 points (+5|-0)

A woman can be as assertive as she wants without pushback, as long as she is hobbled by a pencil skirt, spike heels, or both.