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[–] spaghettiforhair autogynophobe 9 points

Idk if I'll ever get married, but if I do, I'm keeping my finances completely separate AND I'll have a secret savings account AND a secret stash around the house. It's a weird feeling because growing up, I always dreamed of having my fairytale wedding with a man (now I'm not even straight), but now it just seems like a trap.

No woman should ever enter a marriage or have-kids-with situation with a man lacking an ironclad exit plan. She must update the plan regularly and ensure that it is ready to implement at a moment's notice.

Even with those things in place and other sensible planning it isn’t always easy to leave them. I’m not talking about emotional ambivalence on the part of the woman either but the fact that men are often reluctant to lose their bangmaid services.

I was a full-time student, working full-time, and pregnant all at the same time. My husband offered to take care of the expenses but it was a hard "no" - what if I need a break and feel guilty because you're taking "care" of me? Also, I don't like how he shames me for how much I like spending on kitchen gadgets lmao.

[–] spaghettiforhair autogynophobe 5 points

Definitely. If I do ever get married to a man or woman, I won't move to a place where they can isolate me, I will go into it with a clear prenup, and I'll make sure that I will have a place to go or means to fend for myself if things ever go sour. And if they ever try to sabotage me doing either of those things, I'm running for the hills.

I don't have a "secret" stash but I definitely have my own account with my own savings. We only have a little joint account for vacation savings lol