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when i was still doing physics, i spent a year at a uni where i had to walk 10 mins to a women's bathroom, passing many mens on the way. it literally was not set up with the idea that women can do physics.

i have been told by men that women can't do physics. proved them wrong. i've had sexual harassment, had people mansplain my own work, and this is common. my phd supervisor, who is now a professor, is often asked who's student she is, because men can't get the idea that women could actually get faculty positions.

in life sciences now, there are many more women. but still, the bosses are mostly men. and they still mansplain my work to me even though i'm in a very specialised field that neither my current nor previous bosses (bar one) have any experience in.

I barely know what to say at her interview... she's the kind of woman who welcomed and made the male attention and sexual harassment her own, and revelled in it. For those of us who're lesbian - this is obviously not an option, nor should it be for our heterosexual sisters! Yet an eye opening interview overall.

Yeah, impressed with her career but question a lot of her choices and being "unaware of a power imbalance". It's 2022 and I was still painfully aware of a power imbalance when my professors hit on me...

yeah 'unaware of the power imbalance' is ridiculous.

i'm sorry your professors hit on you. report those creeps.

No kidding. I kind of wondered at the young, cutesy hairdo. She admits that she got where she got using sexuality. And she doesn't seem to have a problem with it. I guess the success of her tactics blinded her to the fact that she should have been welcomed, educated, and respected for her abilities, not her sex appeal. And, between the lines, I sensed a slightly dismissive contempt for women who couldn't or wouldn't use the same tactics. It's wrong that this was what she had to do to succeed in her career, but it's disappointing that she bought what she was sold and is kind of bragging about it.

[–] sashimi33 1 points Edited

I wondered at the hairdo too and thought that it was wrong too for her to be bragging about being successful doing what others didn't want to.

i didn't read it like that at all, i read it as partly naive denial, but partly a coping mechanism. i've now reread it based on this comment and can totally see how it can be read in that way.

i did not like the way she dismissed accusations of sexually inappropriate behaviour in men she knows though. we find it so hard to be believed and being dismissed like that has a serious impact on victims.

[–] ActualTomboy 3 points Edited

“I didn’t notice any sexual harassment because I was receptive to all sexual advances. Other women are just too sensitive and repressed. I managed to draw the line at not letting a married man sleep with me, but otherwise I have no real boundaries with men who love bomb me since I desperately crave male attention and validation. Also, I don’t want any problems, cause I will be the one labeled a problem. So, it’s better to just go with it and pretend there aren’t any problems here. Plus, the denial helps me cope with it all.”

Sadly, I have met successful women who think this way in every job I've ever had.

This is really hilarious and accurate. I think this magical woo woo thinking isn't helpful for other women and can be downright harmful.