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Except for maybe one or two posts a year (like I posted a vacation pic last summer), I don't get on social media any longer. Haven't for years now, I guess. My biggest problem on social media is that there's a lot of posting about things I have zero interest in. Like I'm interested in friends/relatives' lives, but most often what's posted is superficial or overblown. I'm also not interested in political and current events posts that are just about the same garbage I avoid in the rest of my life, and that's all over what I'm tending to "belong" to.

I also became disillusioned with social media when the talk about how it's engineered to "dopamine hit" us when we get "likes" and such, to keep us "addicted" and coming back. When people would interact with me on social media, but couldn't be bothered to exchange an SMS text, I realized I was just exchanging dopamine hits with people who didn't truly care about an actual human relationship (even an acquaintance-level one), but just wanted that additional "hit". So that was a real downer. When I left social media I posted my (real) contact information, and even pinned a post that said "text me instead :-)". Maybe 1 of 100 people actually did so.

When I forget the above and post something again, I am quickly reminded of it again, so I wander away again. I don't delete my accounts (in case of emergency), but I just forget about them because they aren't real and healthy enough to keep my interest. I don't judge - I just find them boring :-)

I think an important distinction should be made between the older generation who remember what all of this felt like BEFORE social media, and the new generations who have never lived outside of it. My use of SM walks alongside these perspectives in the article, simply because I have a point of reference from the "before times" when the whole world was still living in the material (mostly). I and those my age know exactly what's waiting for us if we "go back". However Im glad this person is on the mark about what that is.

I don’t know who Isaac Simpson is but I don’t think I use social media the same way he does. For him it’s apparently about winning and sharpening his arguments and being more right than anyone else. I don’t do that at all on social media.

Maybe it’s my choice of site (I’m old) but on Facebook my main interactions with friends are 1) sharing things from our day to day, with or without photos, with different balances between sincerity and irony, and 2) sharing memes with like-minded people—I have a filter for politics so I don’t post to anyone I don’t agree with, it’s just like-minded friends entertaining each other. Then I belong to NUMTOTs and a couple of book clubs, and I follow media sources, both the ones I believe in and agree with and ones that are peripheral to me to stretch my mind a little. I never argue on social media, especially not with strangers. I don’t get the feelings of inadequacy people describe from social media because I tend not to pay attention to people’s braggy posts about their new houses and international travel and their kids’ medals or, god help me, the horrible dance-mom posts. I also don’t have the attention-seeking, selfie-posting desperation. I never post selfies. I do argue with strangers to some extent in newspaper comment sections but I keep it fun and avoid getting caught up in feuds.

My social-media use is a problem because there is such a gulf between interactions I can have with people online, where I can talk about anything and everything, and face-to-face, where it’s much less possible for me to be real. I don’t know the answer to that. I would like to reduce the time I spend scrolling, but I don’t know that quitting social media entirely would make my life richer and fuller.

(disclaimer: I haven't read the article yet, but from your description I probably share more similarities with this dude than with you)

I left most social media about a year ago, as a kind of self-improvement challenge, because my phone use was out of control. If my thinking has changed during that time, I haven't noticed. I still enjoy petty arguments. During empty moments, I still wish I could rant on twitter and shitpost on instagram. The problem for me is that I'm so immersed in that culture that I end up disclosing things about myself, like the boundary between me and social media doesn't mean anything at all. Like i would rather exist on there than in reality. I'm over 40 and have spent a couple of decades now just talking about myself to machines.

I wish I could say I've changed for the better. Maybe I've broken the worst of the habit. I'm on here (off and on), occasionally I update goodreads or something, I follow a couple of blogs and YouTube channels. That's a fraction of what it used to be like. But I still feel the loss, because we rely on our phones for so much. And even now, during a moment of boredom, my first thought isn't to read a book or write in my diary, it's to look at my phone.