[–] ghoul2 17 points Edited

I used to sound exactly like the commenter at the top, and in some ways I still do while talking to people. Then I started getting paranoid when "nice" people were getting treated harsher than the people who actually hate trans people (e.g. the men who hate trans people for trying to evade gender expectations and hierarchy, the same reason they hate feminists for trying to subvert the same hierarchy)

[–] Tq231442 11 points Edited

I ironically get a lot less pushback the less "kind" I am. When I was like "I understand they're actually women but-" they'd rage at me. Now when I point-blank say they're men people are speechless and can't counter me.

They're used to us gently getting stepped all over. Female socialization is a bitch.