Cis people too often abuse this power, cajoling trans people into respectability by dangling the basic human respect of using our legal names over our heads. When trans people refuse to dance that cis dance, our dignity is snatched away.

Isn't that like...literally how society works as a whole to deter violent perps from being violent? Act like an asshole, get treated like an asshole? Especially since the "basic respectability" we demand of trans people typically comes in the form of "respect real women and don't commit sex crimes" lol...