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[–] spw 19 points Edited

I actually think this is a really good analogy. When I was 16 I got pregnant and eventually had an abortion but spent about a week thinking I wanted to continue the pregnancy. I posted online and had a load of people telling me how great this was and how amazing being a mum would be. Most of my friends where also encouraging me to keep the baby and where saying I could do it and it would be great. I had quite serious mental health issues at the time and for some reason I thought having a baby would sort them and make my life better. Fortunately my mum didn't and eventually persuaded me to get an abortion mainly by waking me up in the middle of the night to try and show me what it would be like.

I think gender affirming care is like encouraging a 16 year old girl to have a baby. You are encouraging them to do something that is not going to be right for them and not being honest about what it is like or trying to work out why they think that and what mental health problems may be affecting the decision. I actually think there are so many parallels. Both are encouraging them to make a decision that will hugely affect the rest of their life that is wrong for them. I was also told (by people I now realise where nasty "prolife" people) that my mum was manipulating and pressuring me and didn't love me enough to accept my decision. Again I see so many parallels to a TiP being told their parents are bigots as they don't immediately accept them as trans.