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Nothing says innocent like preparing a folder of documents that you intend to use if you get caught for child abuse. Especially the letters from other people saying what a good mother you are, prepared in advance. This is crazy.

[–] Eava 21 points

Whose children write them cards saying they feel safe with them? Children who are told they aren't safe. What a huge red flag.

This is so messed up, especially because I know when I was deep in my mother's abuse I would have denied her actions up and down and sworn she was the greatest mother in the world because I was so desperate for her to love me. Of course these kids don't know they're being abused. They're getting what they think they want.

[–] VestalVirgin 2 points Edited

Yeah, children who are not loved by their parents tend to do everything in their power to get that love.

The other way round, I had a rather happy childhood and honestly can't recall ever having written any cards to my parents about what great parents they were, except perhaps when kindergarten made me do it. My parents' parenting was just normal to me, and my parents didn't demand praise.

So ... all this "Look, my children write me cards praising my parenting!" would be a red flag for me.

because I know when I was deep in my mother's abuse I would have denied her actions up and down and sworn she was the greatest mother in the world because I was so desperate for her to love me.

Same. I think the psychological term is "emeshment." Can't remember.

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Amber Briggle (she/her), @ mrsbriggle

to parents of trans kids across the country, if i can recommend one thing to work on today (besides hugging your babies harder than ever) it's to start building a "safe folder"

Amber Briggle (she/her), @ mrsbriggle

a safe folder contains important items like your child's medical and legal records (vaccination records, court documents/passports/etc showing their legal name if it's been changed).

Amber Briggle (she/her), @ mrsbriggle

also include letters from trusted people like neighbors, your child's principal, clergy, etc that talk about what a wonderful parent you are.

Amber Briggle (she/her), @ mrsbriggle

photos (including self portraits your children have drawn!) that document your trans child's transition are also helpful. if you have a social media account & are considering deleting, download all your pics and posts first to use as evidence of their persistent gender identity.

Amber Briggle (she/her), @ mrsbriggle

one year my son drew me the LOVELIEST mother's day card. he told me how much he loved me & how safe he felt when he was with me. the 1st thing i thought was "this is the sweetest thing he's ever made me." the 2nd (heartbreaking) thing i thought is "this goes in the safe folder."

Amber Briggle (she/her), @ mrsbriggle

include report cards, too. medals/awards that they've earned from their accomplishments.

Amber Briggle (she/her), @ mrsbriggle

i pray you will never need to rely on your safe folder. but if someone calls CPS on you for doing nothing more than loving your transgender child and supporting them in the ways that they need, then you have evidence to back you up that YOU ARE A GOOD PARENT.

Amber Briggle (she/her), @ mrsbriggle

it will be okay. hug your babies, vote these douchecanoes out of office, and stay strong. love you.

[–] VestalVirgin 16 points Edited

From what I've heard, CPS takes children away from parents who are trying to protect them from gendercrazies.

So ... a case of projection and pretending to be persecuted and oppressed? Or are there actually places where CPS would take children away from parents who are transing them? (In which case I don't think other people claiming you are a great parent would help. Taking your child abroad to have their sex organs cut off is taking your child abroad to have their sex organs cut off - it doesn't really matter if you always attend their football games and stuff ... does it? I certainly hope that no children are left with parents who are physically harming them just because those parents have a folder full of cute mothers' and fathers' day cards the abused child made them as 'proof' of their good parenting.)

Or are there actually places where CPS would take children away from parents who are transing them?

Arguments about treatment or lack thereof of "trans" kids are happening all over the place. I think it depends on where you are as to which might occur in your case. But either way, imo kids and the state are getting a bit overreaching when it comes to what they're thrusting on kids, and right now that's mostly coming from blue influences

[–] nopenottoday 6 points Edited

None of this proves you're not an abusive parent. You'd be surprised how many abused kids don't realize they're abused until they're much older, or never at all. There are abused kids out there who will swear up and down that their parents are amazing and love them so much because they are gaslighted/ brainwashed and they don't know anything else. There are entire families out there where all the children have been abused by one or both parents and they all live in denial forever and are enmeshed with the abuser. Sometimes one child will speak out and call the abuse what it is and that child is shunned from the family.

This woman is a narcissistic child abuser and she has been exploiting her daughter to gain a lot of attention and what we call "narcissistic supply" for herself.

Yeah, nothing stops me from seeking a full care order like a nice drawing from an abused child to their parent. What do they expect to happen? We see pictures and drawings and go, oh nevermind then. This is upper class nonsense with no inkling of what goes on in child protection.

Is she going to keep that folder to look back on when her 20 something year old daughter is in a wheelchair from osteoporosis and/or has a heart attack and asks why this was done to her?

As if it's hard to get away with child abuse.

In America, you can fucking kill your kid and walk free (prime example: Casey Anthony).

No one protects children here. No one.