This is so messed up, especially because I know when I was deep in my mother's abuse I would have denied her actions up and down and sworn she was the greatest mother in the world because I was so desperate for her to love me. Of course these kids don't know they're being abused. They're getting what they think they want.

[–] VestalVirgin 2 points Edited

Yeah, children who are not loved by their parents tend to do everything in their power to get that love.

The other way round, I had a rather happy childhood and honestly can't recall ever having written any cards to my parents about what great parents they were, except perhaps when kindergarten made me do it. My parents' parenting was just normal to me, and my parents didn't demand praise.

So ... all this "Look, my children write me cards praising my parenting!" would be a red flag for me.