I told her she needs to remove it

God, the entitlement. She didn' t even ask, just "do as I say".

If I were in that woman' s place, I would tell my daughter to go fuck herself if she told me something like that. If it bothers you, it' s your problem to deal with it, not mine.

People should really tell these assholes off instead of walking on eggshells for them. Even if it' s your kid.

ESPECIALLY if it's your kid. if they are minors, you still have significant authority over them, and it's your right to them, to put them in their place when they misbehave. and this is misbehaviour.