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The comments on r/sex give me hope that the world hasn't gone completely mad- most of them rightfully chewed him out. The comments on r/asktransgender confirm that it's mostly males, because playing fast and loose with consent is such male behavior.

And the sad thing is the men on /r/sex talking about the importance of consent are mostly just repulsed at the thought of hooking up with a TIM. If the victim were a woman, I bet there'd be a lot more justification for his actions.

I actually think their would have been more pushback if it was a woman who was assaulted. If instead, for example, some man wrote that he convinced a drunk girl he was her boyfriend in a dark bar and did something sexual with her, people would rightfully calling it out for what it was: sexual assault. I think I only saw one person come out and say this was sexual assault.

All those men on r/sex are using the threat of violence (from hypothetical other men, they see themselves as good guys) to discourage TIMs from acting like this. “You can’t do that, you might get beat up.” But of course none of them want to unknowingly kiss a TIM in a club. It’s a very clear cut example of how male violence serves the interests of men as a class.

(I wonder if it’s easier to see because a man is the one being threatened. Threats of violence used to keep women in line are so pervasive they’re difficult to notice.)