And the sad thing is the men on /r/sex talking about the importance of consent are mostly just repulsed at the thought of hooking up with a TIM. If the victim were a woman, I bet there'd be a lot more justification for his actions.

I actually think their would have been more pushback if it was a woman who was assaulted. If instead, for example, some man wrote that he convinced a drunk girl he was her boyfriend in a dark bar and did something sexual with her, people would rightfully calling it out for what it was: sexual assault. I think I only saw one person come out and say this was sexual assault.