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Why aren't girls taught that men lie?

I mean, granted, I don't think my parents taught me that, but consumption of old-timey books and such taught me that men will say everything to get women to have sex with them. (There's tons of folk songs and tales about men who promise marriage and then run away after getting what they want.)

Have those cautionary tales gone out of fashion?

I am a massively naive person; it took me years to grasp the concept of people intentionally saying things that are not true. I am very bad at lying myself. But still, I notice when men are lying to me in order to get into my pants. Because here's the thing: I expect them to. Now, I am still bad at determining lies I am not expecting. If a man tells me that he has committed a crime, or that he is involved with another woman, I take that at face value, because it is nothing that would attract me. I've been told some men invent such things to make themselves interesting, but that's where my lie detecting fails.

Still.

How on earth do those young girls grow up not being warned about that if a man can get into your pants with one easy lie - he will tell you that lie.

That's not really the issue, girls understand that everybody lies. The problem is that girls are taught that casual sex is empowering, that they must push their boundaries in bed, and that they're just as strong as men. So after they're raped (or had what they considered to be a one night stand) they feel empty, humiliated, hurt, and confused. And they can't even put their finger on why they feel this way, everyone told them that sex is fun and healthy. That's the real lie, the one that teaches girls and young women that sex is the same for men and women and that we're all the exact same. I know this because I used to think like this, and when I finally opened my eyes it changed me. Sex can be good and all, but we will never enjoy it as men do, casual sex for women is disappointing at best and dangerous at worst.

Also the prominent media lie of friends with benefits turning to something more if you have an amazing personality/looks. Nope when a man tells you what he wants, believe him.