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To be fair, I don't know where she hooked up with him but Grindr is known to be used by a lot of straight men lately who look for TIFs there. And since these women are desperate to fulfill their gay boi fantasies they are probably easy to hook up with. By the way she's a "trans buddhist" who's a PhD student in religious studies.

These girls think they have "boi brains" and yet don't understand how a man can only use them for their vaginas. Sis... If you don't understand that, you CERTAINLY don't got any kind of male brain because that shit is how to male 101

My only TIF friend actually hates men (huge cognitive dissonance there) and is lesbian, so at least she won’t be going on dates with rapist males (and my heart goes out to this poor woman who was assaulted), but I don’t understand how they can all male-identify without recognizing that men’s thinking, behavior, and socialization regarding sex is completely different. Men are overwhelmingly predatory users who see women as walking “cum dumpsters.”

Women don’t despise men the same way and get off on degrading them and being sexually violent to them. For men, entitlement, rage, sex and hatred are deeply intertwined. They can assault a woman and walk away with zero guilt. In fact, they look back on it fondly.

[–] platypus 17 points Edited

Yup, they view sex as a tool for "putting you in your place" and "getting one up on you." It took me a long time to understand this because in mind mind, consensual-sex-as-revenge makes about as much sense as feeding someone a cupcake as "revenge." But a man can literally enter a consensual sexual encounter where his female partner is excited and happy, and come away from the experience thinking "yup, I showed her who's boss!" They really ruin everything with their horrible petty vengeance mentality.

transgenderism and buddhism are thoroughly incompatible. Buddhists are supposed to acknowledge and overcome their desires and negative feelings that come from desire. She's just pretending to be something she's not in more than one way.

Maybe because Buddhism also teaches women cannot ascend to the afterlife? And that women also are "cursed" men's souls or whatever who have to repeat life as women, maybe its all a big cope? I am with you totally on her pretending, I just hope she can get out of this horrid loop.

I didn't know that... Can we have one religion that's not completely shitty towards women? I hate this man-dominated world.

[–] Committing_Tervery alien/ufoself 👽🛸 1 points

Maybe because Buddhism also teaches women cannot ascend to the afterlife?

Source please? I couldn’t find anything about this. I’m disturbed by this because I recently started going to a Buddhist temple and most of the people there are women. They even have women monks. (For the record, this temple is Tibetan Buddhist; idk if there are differing beliefs for women in different sects of Buddhism.)

I don't think most Buddhists hold such misogynistic values anymore, and there is a lot of diversity of thought within Buddhism too. About reincarnation: the more bad karma a person accumulates, the more challenging their next life will be. Since being a woman is significantly more difficult, some people see it as a punishment for past karma.

Personally, I believe that since women had less freedoms when these religions were created, there were significantly less women who could be wandering travelers who attained enlightenment and taught philosophy.

I'm not sure what her situation is but I hope she gets better.

I would say they are incompatible more because trans is all an ego-based identity. Nothing more.

Exactly what I was wondering. How can she be in a PhD program for religious studies and not see their blatant incompatibility?

I think she may be more focused on American Buddhism? Her twitter profile says she is Thai but I saw she tweeted one of her papers which was focused on American Buddhism and sexual violence. There are so many views in Buddhism though, from the extremely religious, to NeoBudhism, to just philosophical beliefs. Academics who study religion/cultures do have a long history of pushing their own values onto others and ignoring diversity within the groups they study.

I wonder, are gay men going to start having trouble finding other gay men on Grindr? Is it getting to that point?

They also probably make the mistake of thinking they're "safe" with a "gay man."

I would think transgenderism is too consumerist and anti-Dharma to be compatible with Buddhism.