My plan: use the singular AND swap they/them around so it’s clear you’re talking about a single genderspecial.

“What does Kai do nowadays?”

“Them is a barista. I saw they last week.”

Still using preferred pronouns so them can’t complain.

[–] GenderHeretic 6 points Edited

If this caught on I'd finally be able to tell whether we're talking about one person or multiple people.