but what makes you entitled to sex with people who find you unattractive in the first place?
I'll never really understand the allure of having sex (edit: well, rape, but for the sake of this topic we'll go with their assumptions here) with 1. someone who isn't into you and 2. someone who actively doesn't want to have sex with you. Have these people really never been with someone who was super into them and super into what they were doing and so they have absolutely no frame of reference for genuinely mind-blowing sex? It's the only thing I can figure.
The fact that the woman doesn’t want the sex is why the man wants it. Two opposing wills, the one that dominates wins. They are not sexually attracted to mutuality. They are sexually aroused by domination, by winning.
And that's what I don't get. I never will.
A lot of the online trans communities are very young and that’s why I think this whole “genital preferences” “hearts not parts” has taken off so much. Of course when you are young and sexually inexperienced, sex is just a concept to you. It makes sense in your mind that it’s just a “preference”.
Adults will encourage this for ulterior motives (money, grooming/rape etc). Any sexually experienced adult knows calling it “genital preferences” or god forbid “genital fetish” is complete bullshit so I can only assume nefarious intent.
Especially for young women, almost the entire narrative is around being desirable, not desiring. A lot of women I know went through an early phase of hooking up with unattractive men just because those men made them feel attractive, wanted to feel like the man couldn't 'do better' and would appreciate them, make them feel desirable...and then got older, learned through experience that unattractive men don't treat them any better than attractive ones, and sex is better when you're actually attracted to your partner.
She is a lesbian. She is not grossed out because he is trans. As a lesbian, she is grossed out because he is male. And he is sexually gross and repulsive even if he has his junk surgically made into a front hole.
We need to not use the language of "genital preferences" when the only issue is sexual orientation.
the comments were quite supportive, actually, but it still pisses me off that they're calling her lesbianism a "genital preference". it's not a preference, it's an orientation.
there is a user who said it's only transphobic if she's grossed out because he's trans. but what makes you entitled to sex with people who find you unattractive in the first place? why do we have to fuck you if we have to prove we're not transphobes? why do we have to pull up bs excuses like "genital preferences" to get out od having to fuck you, and why do you constantly pester lesbians into having sex with you by calling them transphobic?