Ahh yes, women repeatedly have our health concerns ignored and dismissed by doctors (sometimes for a decade or longer before it’s diagnosed), but sure.

I developed a genetic condition in puberty that wasn't diagnosed until nearly menopause. And by then, it was too advanced to really respond well to the conservative treatments that were covered by insurance.

Tell me more about how easy I have it.

Please. Tell me.

They confuse "health care" with "radical surgeries that serve no medical benefit."

The Hemingway AGP found it "therapeutic" to shoot elephants. "Think I'll go murder a beautiful endangered species because I have sexual fetishes" -- I suppose that was "health care" to him too?


I have an 8cm gap in my abdominal wall muscles after pregnancy. I developed a hernia, I've lost almost all of my core strength, and I can't even burp without leaning forward. I'd love to get it repaired but it's considered a cosmetic surgery and not covered by insurance.

Sorry not sorry that men have to pay out of pocket for their dick tuck.

[–] IrishTheFrenchie non-cis logic 7 points

That sucks.

My neighbor had one so large, she looked 6 months pregnant after giving birth, and stayed that way for years. She didn't want to fix it until she was done having children.

I'm sure you know this but mentioning it just in case - pelvic floor physios also do a lot of work on diastisis. What you're describing is pretty significant diastisis so I'm sure physio wouldn't fix it but perhaps it would help a bit, if you haven't tried it yet? (And if you can afford it...)

I did ask about physical therapy but the OB said with that size there's not a whole lot that would help aside from surgical repair. I've still been trying to rebuild some of my strength but it's not been great.

The thing with trying on your own to rebuild that strength is that a lot of ab exercises actually worsen diastisis. (I'm a midwife and what I tell my clients as a general rule is if your abs pop out when you're doing ab exercises, it's worsening the diastisis. You want to aim to sort of tuck your abs in while doing exercises. But I'm not sure how easy that'll be with your degree of seperation.)

OBs are surgeons above all so personally I would still try physio if you can! But I would go for a pelvic floor physio as the pelvic floor and abdominal muscles area closely related and affected by pregnancy.

Best of luck! I hope you figure something out that works for you.

I have that same gap. Sometimes I get awful cramps from it...and it feels scary if my bra slips over it, like I'll poke my intestines or lower lungs. I can't wear tight sports bras anymore (which I loved).

For context this is a TIF who has multiple MH problems and can’t take tablets due to anxiety, not sure how they are expecting to medically transition in this case. The main issue seems to be the local hospital which is handling their IUD care has the word ‘woman’ on a sign.

[–] hmimperialtortie 🐈🐈🐈🐈🐈 7 points

So none of her medical issues have anything to do with her fantasy of being male.

As someone who is chronically ill, along with other things, from the bottom of my heart GO FUCK YOURSELF.

Women get their concerns belittled and ignored all the time, people are dying from surgery delays thanks to covid, people in the US can’t afford an emergency visit to the hospital without losing their house and people in Canada are getting inadequate care and enduring months long waiting lists and are dealing with apathetic to outright hostile emergency room nurses who make us wait 12 hours for a doctor to shrug his shoulders and send us home, seniors are dying in our hospital hallways but yeah, “cis” people are just so fucking privileged.

Hey! I live in Canada too and that’s exactly my take on the Canadian healthcare system.

I've had to turn down multiple prescriptions because I couldn't afford them. I'm still stunned by how doctors prescribe things there's no chance in hell their patient can pay for.

From $100 a tube creams to several hundred dollar/month meds.

[–] IrishTheFrenchie non-cis logic 6 points

As a pharmacist, I used to give free talks to seniors or anyone interested on how to speak to your doctor to make sure you were getting less expensive medications, and how to find less expensive alternatives for what you already take.

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