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[+] [Deleted] 6 points

One of their daughter’s siblings identifies as non-binary and one of Feldmann’s parents, who was assigned male at birth, is also considering the possibility of transitioning late in life.

Something rotten is happening in that house.

Also, we are told over and over that acceptance and affirmation keeps them from killing themselves. This family accepted him and he still died. It’s a mental health issue.

[–] ArmedFemme [OP] 🪖🎖️ 7 points

One-hundred percent. Usually you won't see any sort of suicides where the family/friends was there for them and listened to them. I have a feeling he was being neglected and his mother is just using his death as a means of getting attention. Extremely pathetic on her end.

What is unknown is whether this person would have been helped with therapy which helped sort our the source of the mental health issues rather than jumping on the most popular bandwagon.

[–] Future Is Female 2 points

This is just so sad. Only 18 years old.

May you rest in peace Haley.

[–] ArmedFemme [OP] 🪖🎖️ 6 points

they accepted her trans identity. One of their daughter’s siblings identifies as non-binary and one of Feldmann’s parents, who was assigned male at birth, is also considering the possibility of transitioning late in life.

An entire family of TIPs. Wonderful.

Feldmann needed transitional medical care, but the family’s health insurance saw such care as “elective” and “cosmetic” rather than life-saving. Feldmann’s mother said the inaccessibility of this care also contributed to her daughter’s despair.

It is not life saving, and it is very much so cosmetic. If your son was struggling with suicidal thoughts, you put him in psychotherapy or a mental hospital. You don't complain to an insurance firm that your son 'needs' this surgery to live and that they should pay for it, but rather put him in a mental hospital they can pay for.

“We are not a poor family, but we have by no means a great deal of money,” her mother said. “Affording surgery for her was not something we could do…If our insurance would have covered it, it would have saved her life. She would still be here.”

So again, if this surgery determined life or death, you would probably do anything you could to collect enough money to do the surgery. From what I understand you are somewhere in the middle class, so take a loan out, make him get a job, etc. Or even better, find an alternative they will pay for like therapy or a mental hospital.

"If my daughter had received from society in general, the only things that mental health professionals insist can successfully ‘treat’ gender dysphoria—affirmation, validation—she might still be with us.”

What happened to your son is horrible, but you can't rely on society to be a cake walk for your son just because he wants to be a girl. That's taking free speech from people just because your son was too fragile to confront the fact he was male. From the looks of it, there were signs that he was falling into this pit of depression. He locked himself in his room, became quiet, etc. That is your responsibility, as his mother, to help him get out of it. You do not get to turn around and blame other people when something goes wrong.

No one with good mental health adopts a gender identity. So, if an entire family is trans-identified ... It just a recipe for dysfunction and sorrow