Patriarchy has its cruelties for men that's for sure... That's for them to unravel.

How you get to from that to 'but I wanna wear a maid's dress' I don't know. I've spent plenty of time in the kink scene to have the view that any man who wants to wear a maids dress is a piece of shit. I confess to really enjoying one such dude writing about his fantasy becoming a reality and basically hating it. Yeah dude. Fetishising hard work kinda hard to do when you actually have to do the hard work!